Dad...

Hi Daktari,

I am so sorry for your loss. I too lost my Dad in February and I still cannot believe it. He was everything, a fantastic Dad/Husband/Brother/Grandad/Uncle, he was our world. He too struggled the last few weeks and it was heartbreaking watching him decline. He had extensive Small Cell Lung Cancer which was diagnosed in June 2021 which had spread to the brain in December. Despite Radiotherapy and more Chemo, he rapidly declined mid January and it was very hard to see.

Your Dad will be out of any discomfort now and I am sure watching over you and your family all the time.

There is no time limit on when you should be “over this”, grief affects us all in different ways and there is no wrong or right way to grieve, I will never get over losing my Dad. I personally am taking each day at a time, I have cried everyday since he passed (7 weeks 5 days) and no day has gotten any better for me yet, I miss him so much and I still cannot believe he isn’t here. 

Don’t put pressure on yourself to feel “normal” because losing a parent has been one of the worst things I have ever been through and don’t feel you have to be OK because that’s what people expect. Losing a parent is heartbreaking but also having to watch them decline also is another hurdle in itself.

One day at a time x 

Thank you so much for your message, I am so sorry to hear about your Dad but it's very reassuring to know someone else understands how I feel and that gives me comfort...as you say, one day at a time.

Sending you love and best wishes x