Mum passed away

Hi. I am so sorry for your loss, I only know too well the pain you are going through right now. I lost my Dad to SCLC 12 days ago, diagnosed in June 2021 with spread to liver and spine. Tolerated first lot of treatment well, discovered spread to the brain in December, had radiotherapy and a new chemo but sadly we lost him. We are heartbroken. He was admitted to hospital 2 weeks ago yesterday, his birthday with what the hospital thought was a severe chest infection but the reality was rapid cancer progression. We were with him when he passed. I too have 3 children, and it keeps me going that he got to walk me down the aisle in December and meet my son, who is nearly 4 months. My 2 eldest children are shattered. 
Just take one day at a time, try not to think too far ahead. I went to see him at the Chapel of Rest yesterday. 
Somehow you will find the strength to keep going, I know my Dad would want us all to keep going, even though I can’t bare the thought of never seeing him again. Your Mum will always be around and very proud of you and your sister. I like to think my Dad will always be around.

x 

I'm so so sorry for your loss. No words can take away the pain. It just doesn't seem real. My mum deteriorated rapidly, she was still so young, I just hope she has given me th strength to get through this. If you need a chat or anything just send a message. It's so hard for people to understand when they haven't went through it. Cancer is the most awful illness. The pain my mum was the worst thing to see knowing there was nothing we could do to make her feel better. X

It doesn’t seem real at all, even though I feel like I haven’t seen my Dad since he was diagnosed, he didn’t deal with it well mentally, I feel like I’m grieving him and my Dad who had Cancer, it’s very bizarre. 
How old was your Mum if you don’t mind me asking? My Dad was 68 but more like a 40 year old, a big kid, our best mate!

Cancer is nasty and I know SCLC is aggressive. It’s awful seeing them struggle, my Dad really did struggle the last week and even more so when he was admitted to hospital, it was traumatic to watch and he deserved so much better, as did your Mum.

Please message me if you need to, it helps me chat to others on here as like you say, unless you experience it, nobody can understand your pain x

My mum is 59. It was awful to watch. She was in so much pain and could barely walk without being unable to get a breath. They definitely deserved better. Thank you so much. It doesn't seem real, I can't imagine how hard life will be without mum.