Mum is leaving us soon

Dear Julie.c64,

My heart goes out to you, and I know and understand what you are going through, especially when you know the inevitable, just not when. I too have been going through this unbearable pain of knowing you are losing someone so precious to this most unforgiving disease. I lost my brother of 58 Thursday 30 December. So I can relate to this pain you feel. Your mum I'm sure is being well looked after and is being made comfortable, for us looking on it's so distressing, but if she is sleeping, the doctors will be ensuring she is not feeling pain and will be watching over her. My brother slept almost all the time in the last few days, stopped eating and drinking, but the doctors were wonderful, made him comfortable without pain, he passed very peacefully. I hope you find some comfort from my reply, although when we know we are going lose someone we love dearly, it is hard to find comfort in much, our grief is so great, and comfort seems a long way off. 

I really hope you and your sister eventually can find the love you share for your mum will sustain you through this most painful time.

Mum passed away last night she had lost ability to swallow so was on a feeding tube. She tried to talk to us but struggled to make sounds she did recognize use .we used paper to communicate. Mum managed to point with a pen . We were told inthe morning she had now got sepsis on top of pneumonia, cancer and her bone infection. She took her last breath last night ,we were fortunate to being able to visit but far the scariest thing I have been present for. I cant believe how much it hurts. But we know mum is no longer suffering. 

Julie

Oh Julie.c64

Honestly, I feel so deeply for you at this most painful time in your life - the passing of your mother, it is such a heart wrenching loss, that really no words can even touch the pain you are now experiencing. I am not coping myself very well, it's not even a week since my dear brother passed, and I could not be with him at the end. As you say, your Mum is no longer suffering and I pray she rests in peace and you too find some peace in months to come, and have people who can support you through this.

Take care