My stepdad passed in Feb from bile duct cancer, it was 6 weeks from diagnosis to death. When he was first told it was terminal my mum asked him if we should contact his estranged kids, it had been about 10 years since last contact (this is whole other story!) and he said no, he didn’t want them knowing, no one really agreed with his decision but honoured it anyway. Now one of them is looking for their Dad, we received contact from them 2 days ago. My mum is in a awful place mental health wise and is just not up to the task of telling them, so I have agreed to do it after Christmas. The thing is I don’t even know what to say, how do you tell someone that their Dad is dead? I’m worried they will be mad that no one told them sooner, I’ve always been upset for them that they never had a chance to say goodbye and get closure, and quite frankly I’m dreading it. Just a side note there was no real fall out that lead to cutting contact it just happened due to distance, the kids are all 30-40 years old. Does anyone have any advice on how to do this?
