So unreal

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I'm a care worker and I see alot of different illnesses and that's where the anger comes from I should have noticed something was wrong. 

At the end of April (Friday) my partner the father of our 2 young children went to the Dr's with a stomach ache they gave him a referral to go to the hospital so he went to the bus stop and got the bus to accident and emergency. He was waiting a long time to be seen but got admitted that night. Over the weekend he had scans and xrays done I was texting him and phoning him and all he kept saying that was someone from the hospital will phone me. So on the Monday I got a call telling me it was someone from mcmillan my heart sank and I droped to the floor I was told my partner had cancer but didn't know how serious it was they had to do more test. So by Tuesday my partner was having a little trouble breathing and his legs to his feet had swollen up so the Dr's said they would do a biopsy on Thursday. He had the biopsy done and by Friday we was told he was end of life and that the cancer was in his liver, bowel, lungs and bones. I stayed with him in the hospital from the Friday we was told he got worse so quick. I did not leave his side until Sunday I chose to go home quickly to freshen up and eat I made sure his best friend was at the hospital so he was not alone. As I was making my way back to the hospital I had I call from his best friend say I need to get there now. I got to him a minute to late and he had passed. I should have been there holding him telling him I was there. I don't want to accept he ain't coming back how was his cancer not found sooner I feel so responsible I should have seen the signs. 

  • oh Kika, my heart goes out to you.  We have all gone through the ‘what if’ stage.  Because my husband worked for a bank he got a free MOT every year, I reminded him it was due but he never booked, a few months later he was dead.  

    Some of the cancers have little or no symptoms until it’s too late.

    Please be kind to yourself