How do I say a goodbye?? My dad is rapidly deteriorating and I’m really struggling to keep it together. it’s been too quick, he was only diagnosed 2 months and now he’s leaving us.
Hi, I've been with both my parents in their final days/hours, my Dad was 10 years ago, he had Alzheimer's and my Mum and I spent 24/7 with him in his last week, at the care home he was in..... We sat and talked about all different memories, family holidays, parties, weddings etc, we laughed and cried continuously. My Dad didn't comment, he'd lost his speech a couple of years ago, but he could hear us for definite.
i lost my Mum this July, and this time it was just Me and her. I had only found out the day before she had Cancer, but again talked about memories ( she was not aware of me being there). It does help to remember the better times, even going through photos with them.... I'm not saying it's going to be easy, it's NOT, but it may help for both/all concerned to remember the many years and good times you had, rather than the extreme pain you are going through.
not sure this will help, I hope it does a bit, but be kind to yourself and big hugs to you.
I didn't say "goodbye" to my daddy as I couldn't bring myself to say it at my daddy's funeral, so I said "night, night, daddy" to him instead.
I never got the chance to say it to my daddy in person as myself and my fiance were having trouble with our money at the time.
A few months after we'd said "night, night" to our daddy, my youngest sister and sister-in-law very kindly paid for myself and my fiance to come back home as we couldn't afford it ourselves and they also knew that I would need them as well as my fiance and our mum to come to terms with our nanna coming for our daddy.
My dad died in October this year we knew there was no more treatment that could help him and he was losing the battle with cancer, I had kept it together Infront of him for so long but I cracked one day and sobbed in front of him, my dad told he had been brave and now I have to be brave for him, so that’s what I did, I found my inner strength to be strong for him right to the end, once he had died I then fell apart, but I still hear him asking me to be brave, you have to be brave and strong it’s the worst heartache I have ever felt in my life but my dad wouldn’t want me to give up, he would tell me to be brave, I hope you can find the strength inside to be brave
