Anticipatory Grief

Hi Caliban welcome to the forum. That sense of loss is not an  unusual one when people we love are still here but we know what the outcome will be, so we start to grieve while they are still here. I imagine that it is like that for people who have families affected by Dementia for example when the person they know and love gradually slips away from all that we know them to be.

Its almost like you start to grieve before the person has died f that makes sense?

I had this in the three months leading up to my fathers passing in January this year… i cared for him 24/7 it is the same right now since my husbands diagnosis 6 weeks ago. He has advanced mets in bone, lung and lymph from undiagnosed prostate cancer. I don’t want to go out much, tearful and worried about the future. He is still here thank goodness but the feelings I have are very strong.