My dad was diagnosed with a kidney cancer and had a surgery shortly after. It wasn’t that alarming for me at first because because to the point of the surgery he was feeling great but after the procedure he started experiencing lot’s of pain in his abdomen.
I don’t think you can ever prepare for the loss...
2 years after the surgery in March the doctor told us that my dad is at the end of his life now.. He lost lots of weight as due to pain in his abdomen he couldn’t eat. For a few weeks I didn’t think that we were going to loose him... But suddenly the pain and suffering arrived, the pain in the abdomen got so strong that he couldn’t sleep anymore and there was also an internal bleedin. We were looking after my dad at home as this was his wish, the pain relief patches wouldn’t work anymore. Just to add there wasn’t much medical help available for him anymore due to pandemic and he was terrified of being isolated in the hospital.
Then the nurse told us that he had 48hrs to live , 4 days passed and he was still suffering and present with his mind. The helplesness was killing me...and yet another day has arrived and my dads health improved, his voice was back the pain seemed to ease. I even left him alone to rest and sleep a little... Not until few hours later he took his last breath.
I think I will learn to live with the grief at some point but I just can’t get over the suffering,. I mean no-one deserves this,
Has anyone had a similar experience?
