Loss of a Son

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My Son died on the 1st of March with Acute Myeloid Leukaemia. He was only 40 years old and was only admitted into Hospital 2 days before. He visited Doctors 2 weeks before with symptoms of weight loss, diarrhoea and extremely sore throat and ears. The doctor took bloods including full blood count and a couple of days later he called for results and was told he had glandular fever and was commenced on penicillin. He lived with us (his parents) and his younger sister. We tried to get help as he was taking very high temperatures and night sweats but to no avail. The Doctors and NHS 24 did not respond as he had a diagnosis of Glandular Fever. We called Doctors again on the 29th March and he eventually saw a G.P. Who referred him to Hospital. He only lasted 24 hours before being put on life support and died on the Monday. I spoke to one of the Doctors myself on the phone and asked why his blood results did not highlight the abnormalities 2 weeks before with the G.P’s results but was informed that the blood sample had coagulated and had not been repeated. 
we as a family are absolutely devastated and his sister can’t sleep without sleeping tablets. We feel that my son was let down by the NHS and we will never know if  they had responded quicker if he would have been stronger to start treatment.

  • Hi Butterdean01 welcome to the forum and I am so very sorry for your loss. My son is the same age and I cant even imagine how that must feel for you.

    I don't know what to say to make any of that any better or different but just know that I am thinking of you all.  It sounds like you need to ask some questions and have some answers and the only way I can think for that to happen is for you to make a complaint. You can do that by writing to their complaints department at the hospital involved or you can contact the PALS team in the hospital who cna help you to navigate your way through the system and get to the people that you need to speak with.

    Again my heartfelt sympathy and sincere condolences to you all. xxx

    gail

     
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    FormerMember in reply to GRANNY59

    I have already started a grievance with NHS 24 and complained by e- mail to my local surgery. The Doctor responsible for taking his bloods and not repeating them when they coagulated phoned me and apologised and also stated that she should have followed up with a phone call to him to see how he was doing. I don’t know if I should take this any further or just leave it at that?

  • Hi Butterdean01 sorry for the delay in responding I suppose the best person to know whether to pursue this further or not is you and you alone. What do you feel?

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    Hi Butterbean01

    I feel your pain I lost my husband a week ago and it was very quick and he too was let down by doctors to late to save him after complications at hospital I cared for him right to the end

    There is some hope that pain will ease over time and that have got something to work on with the doctors and the hospital to get the answers properly when you are ready

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    FormerMember in reply to GRANNY59

    I got a reply today from NHS 24 who admitted that they were at fault with their response! I can take this further but feel that as long as they learn from their mistakes that is all Ai can ask as to take things any further will only cause us as a family more distress and pain to have to go over all the error the NHS made.

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Glad you got a response 

    Mine may take a little longer to sort just still processing  the loss people say with time it gets easier but like you it is raw

    My heart and blessing goes to you 

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    It is still very raw for you! My son died 7 weeks ago and it still feels like yesterday! I will pray for you and your family. xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    Thankyou for your kind words

    Someone suggested going to doctors for tablets but I couldn't do that

    I  still feel like Dean is still here I am having counselling which helps I am so glad I found this site

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    FormerMember in reply to FormerMember

    The Doctor gave me sleeping tablets and diazepam before funeral, I haven’t used any so far as I feel that I just need not go through the pain. They are still there though in case I need them, maybe a good idea to have them as a back up!