Firstly, hello to everyone. I have been meaning to join this forum for a while but never quite knew how to put my words down... but now he's gone I need help more than ever.. my dad was diagnosed with cancer in his mouth in April, he also had some very small spots on his lungs. My mum kept ringing everyday and chasing them and he eventually started treatment in September... 5 months later. By which point it was too late and the cancer had rapidly spread to his bones and there was nothing they could do... He passed away on the 11th December early in the morning, and there is a big hole in my heart. I'm thankful due to owning a pub and 2nd lockdown that I got to spend everyday of the last 6 weeks of his life with him.. but I can't help being angry and feeling failed by the system. In those 5 months that they could have been treating him, he was just deteriorating.
I miss him so much already, I know it's still raw and it's only been a few days... But I just can't get the image of him lying there lifeless out of my head.
So sorry to hear about your dad.. there will never be a second of the day you don’t think of him. I also lost my mum to stage 4 lung cancer in feb this year and was in the same head space as yoursel
.. felt after she received chemo which put her into hospital I felt she was neglected in the care of the nurse in the hospital. So I feel angry at them and if they had of looked after her properly se might have still been here a bit longer.. try get some councilling wasn’t for me but you can try but am a great believer in talking and talk about him ️️
