Hi
I'm really struggling it's been almost 3 months my Dad passed away. He got very poorly at 1st we thought it was a bad chest infection. But it turned out to be lymphoma cancer. He went in to hospital and they were trying to work out what was wrong. It was cancer. We found out the type on the Friday and he died on the Monday. I had to watch my Dad take his last breathe. It was so horrible I kept wishes and saying come on Dad one more breath but it wasn't meant to be!
He was like hospital about 3 weeks before he past. We weren't allowed to visit him. But thankfully we saw him just before he died. And we got to hold his hand as he died.
When dose the pain get better. I think I've cried everyday!
Hello Path not chosen, i am really very sorry for your loss. It’s been a really stressful and strange year I totally understand grief and loss, i lost 3 friends to covid and also 5 to cancer and a number of those really have broken my heart but I struggle to grieve I know i need too but sometimes its a difficult process, so its a case of one step at a time and deal with it day by day. There is no right or wrong way to grieve and sometimes the firsts of everything is the hardest but you never forget your loved ones but You can remember the good.
This year we as a family decided to put our Christmas decorations up earlier then we would normally do in that our outdoor lights were up later end of November and i have a little village and window lights in the bedrooms. We have a little tree in the front room and today the main tree was up and finished. Never ever can I remember being this early, but we decided we wanted to bring some light from the darkness. One of my friends would dress up as Father Christmas and give presents to unfortunate children at Christmas and so I wanted to send out some love and light to all and also I did it in his memory too and for all my friends. So when you were asking about how to get though Christmas when your not looking forward to it because you no longer have your Dad maybe you can do something similar and decorate your home in his memory and try to remember all the happy memories that you have of him, maybe any jokes he would tell or little stories. I know its not going to be the same but I hope at least you can remember the good and celebrate his life.
sending you a gentle bear hug
_GBear Xxxx
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