Having had and got through Esophageal cancer myself about 2 years ago and thanking my wonderful surgeons, im still alive... I have worries still, re what I can and cant eat, BAM, and heart, breathing troubles, im here still.
Since this, one of my sister in laws, who had breast cancer, and was having some reconstruction about to occur, took ill this year, and it find she had secondary cancer, she suffered quite bad, she was terminal, I aided my brother to sort out finance, banking etc before she left us, this was at the start of COVID time, about March. Mention this, as feel many families may not realise how much is involved. They had a joint account, and she also had a account in her name,, so this needed to be amended, as all bills were sorted from her account, my brother having no idea what, who, etc.
Thanks to advice from Mc Millan, i managed to get much sorted out. Sadly Rita was taken into hospital, we were then allowed to visit, later not, and we lost here quite quickly,.
I found this time very hard, as i have so far survived, and she has gone, we think her cancer, he breast cancer, was brought on from the death of her son, sudden, she found him in his bed dead, and my brother tried CPR, but was too late.... the shock,,, hit us all,,, he was not ill, Post mortem says heart attack !!! So with this, then Rita with breast cancer, then within 2 years me, then her getting secondary cancer,,, it was a tough time in this family.
Again bad news has hit us,,,,, and it is all too much, as just a few months back, one of my brothers John, was told he has BILE DUCT Cancer, i has gone to his Liver, ,, he had been ill for few weeks, lost weight, not eating...
They said they would cut away half of the Liver, the Liver being only organ that can re grow,,, he went in for surgery on a Saturday,, on the Monday, when i talked to him on Phone, sore but ok... but when doctors came,,,, he was told they had oPened, and closed, not done a thing, as the cancer had gone to far, ,,, We were all devastated.
John is now terminal, we were unable to be there at hosPital when he went in, re covid,,,,, later they sent him home,,, and we managed to see him , twice so far,,, he is uPbeat, ,, he is now on his 3rd cycle of chemo, to try to give him a few more months, they did say 6 months, so we wait to see if chemo extends this,,,, He is in some Pain, and meds been increased. When i talked to him this week, as unable to go his home, re covid Again.. He says, after this chemo, they will do a scan,,, if it has not aided him, he will then cease chemo, as he has been feeling quite sick with the chemo,,,,
I write this, just to try ease my Pain, yes i have talked with family, hubby, re my brother,,, but it helPs to write it... we have had too much badness and this sitting waiting for John to die,,, is very hard. Again ive managed to ask his and his wife, if things are in order, re monies, bills etc... as i had with Rita. I find it hard, as i am here, and so far survived , to know John will be gone maybe by the end of this year,
Whilst all this is going on,,, Johns wife was also told she had CANCER, see how much Pain we have in our family at this time, hers was a very rare one , behind her knee, she has been in and had it removed in the last month, and is back home with John, she has an infection in her wound, they are treating her at home,,,, she will later have Radio TheraPy. We are unable to visit them at this time, re COVID restrictions..
Just getting all this out, helPs a little..... thanks for listening.. xxx
YVONNE
