Loss of Dad

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hello,

We lost my Dad 8 weeks ago to bowel cancer, and I just wondered if anyone has any advice or words of wisdom? I feel completely lost, and can’t believe what has happened. He was diagnosed nearly 6 years ago, so it’s been a long process of treatments and surgeries and pain. He had the death he wanted with no medical interference really, so we’re at peace with that at least. As horrible as it was to watch, it was as good as it could be for him. I don’t know how we’ll get over it as such, as he’ll always be missing now and that breaks my heart. Trying to get back to some sort of normality with work, but with Corona it’s tricky to occupy the mind the rest of the time.

Thank you!

FormerMember over 4 years ago

hiya Helen_1234,

my dad past away from terminal lung cancer last year after a short 6 month battle. he was only 63.

i can't remember if it was before or after my dad's service to say "goodnight" to him (i don't like the other word), my mum suggested to me, my two sisters and our brother to buy a notebook (it doesn't have to be an expensive notebook) and use to write down your thoughts and feelings and you can also use to talk to your dad like you're having a conversation with him.

i have a small (i think its an A5 notebook) red one that i bought from my local poundland shop. i haven't wrote in it yet, but i will do soon.

i used to have a notebook that i had started to use, but i have lost it, which is why i haven't wrote in my new one yet too.

Eldest daughter over 4 years ago

Dear Helen

I must of lost my dear Dad the same time as yourself.

No matter how much you read or research No one can prepare you for this numbing pain ,be gentle with yourself and make time for yourself to have that moment if you need one .

If you ever want to chat you are not alone

Glen

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