My dad died from lung cancer

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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Hi,

My Dad died of lung cancer 5 weeks ago. He was home on palliative care for 3 weeks and I cared for him as he didn’t want any nurses coming in (apart from to administer drugs in the last few days) itas the hardest thing I have ever done but glad I kept my promise to my dad that I would look after him till the end. I have had to give up my job and my home and move in with my mum to look after heas she has dementia, basically my world has been turned upside down. I’m also on pills now from the doctor for anxiety. Apart from the day he died I haven’t been able to cry, I’ve tried but just can and just feel so incredibly guilty because I loved my Dad more than anything, he was my best friend

GRANNY59 over 4 years ago

Hi Imi28 welcome to the forum and I am so very sorry to hear about your fathers death.

I think you need to cut yourself some slack, there is a lot happened in your life as well giving up your job, your home and taking on the role of Carer for not one parent but two.These are all big life events and then to have your fathers death as well. You will cry when you are ready and it may come at a time that will take you by surprise but it will come out.

Im struggling to understand how and what you feel guilty about as it sounds to me like you couldn't have done more for your parents if you had tried, you cared for him and your mum, and respected his wishes to not have any nurses in.

Sending some gentle hugs your way.xx

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to GRANNY59

Thank you Granny59 xx

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