My Dad

Hi Taranis welcome to the forum and I am so very sorry to hear about whats happening  for you right now.

Can I ask how things were prior to your dad dying, were you all close at the time or not? I like you have a sibling that I do not get along with but that has been  the case for most of our life so our parents deaths just emphasised the void between us. That said Taranis there is no accounting for people and how different they can be. Death sometimes brings out things that have long been held in silence but let loose after the death and there is sometimes no rhyme nor reason to that.

Could you try writing to them and  asking them if they could explain why they will not speak to you? Does your mum have any thoughts on why they may feel the way that they do?

Sending best wishes for now . 

Hi

Thanks for getting in touch.  I can say that before dads death to be honest we weren't close.  Talking every day that sort of thing.  Although I would like to think they would be there for me if there was a crisis and I would do the same.

I think you're right when you say that a death really does emphasize the void.  I have not written anything down of that nature and I don't believe that would be a tool to look to resolve anything.  The reason being I did write a note about an incident whilst my dad was in the hospice that I was blamed for.  I won't go into detail about that, but all I would say is it did not go down well.  What else can I do?

I did try calling one of my sister's on the August bank holiday as I wanted to talk, we needed to have it out as I could see what it was doing to my mum, but she would not take my call.  I tried calling her the next day but again she ignored me. So what else can I do.

Because she and my other siblings won't talk to me what do I do?