My Mum passed away from pancreatic cancer 2 years ago - it was very fast and it was shocking to watch. My mother was and still is my bestest friend and seeing the pain that she went through in just 8 weeks since her diagnosis, is something that will stay with me. Grieving has not been easy, even to this day, I still talk to her, still tell her I love her, I miss her or even just a "good morning or goodnight"
A few months ago, my Dad told me, my twin brother and my older sisters that in March he had been diagnosed with myeloma... he hadn't told us right away, as it was during lockdown and he didn't want to tell us, as he had to shield and we couldn't visit him till lockdown eased. Trying to come to terms with my Dad's diagnosis has been strange, it doesn't feel real, as this type of cancer is different to my Mum's and he has more time.... more time... what is that even? Putting such a timeline on someone's life, knowing that one day - next month, next year, in 5 years he is going to be like my Mum was and we as a family are going to have to go through this battle again.
I am not ready to loose another parent. You always know that cancer is around, and it, just bulldozes through people's lives and its not an easy thing to deal with
Not sure where I am going with this, I think I am just lost and not sure how to feel....
Hi
I'm very sorry to read that after losing your mum to cancer two years ago, you've recently discovered that your dad has myeloma. No wonder you are struggling to come to terms with this.
I haven't been in your shoes, as I was the one with cancer, but I noticed your post hadn't had any responses and didn't just want to pass by.
Unfortunately I don't have any answers for you, but you might find speaking to someone on the Macmillan Support Line helps. It's free to call them on 0808 808 0000 and they're available every day from 8am to 8pm.
Sending a virtual ((hug))
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