i’m 17 and my dad passed on thursday from pancreatic cancer. it was a shock but in a way it wasn’t as he was informed his cancer had came back end of may and was given 1-2 months left and when he had a chat with his oncologist a couple weeks ago he said with how he’s been doing he may have longer. it’s just me and dad at home we have other family like my sister and my mum ect but they live abit away like half an hour so can’t be here like immediately if something happens. it was so so hard when he passed as he was laying on his bed as we’d just already had the ambulance round because he has collapsed due to the pain he was in but they managed to help him come around and he was his chatty self again when they left. then literally minutes after they left his pain came back again which we now think meant he was putting on a act in front of the crew for them to go ( he never liked to waste peoples time aha even tho it’s not). he then layed down on his bed and by this time it was 4pm so it’s very unsual for him to but i said do whatever is best for you and about a couple minutes later he took his last breath so then i began to do cpr but he was already gone. the ambulance came but dad has a do not resuscitate which we all agreed on as we didn’t want him to be in pain forever. i’m now living with my mum and she lives an hour away so school is far away now so i’m only going to be able to go sixth form one or two days a week as there’s so easy transport other than to drive.
we just all feel at shock because we expected the gradual decline like many people said before then going into a hospice ect but we knew it can happen suddenly too
i feel very strange at the moment as it hasn’t quite sank in but i wanted to explain my situation and speak to other people who have experienced a loss of a loved one.
the detailed story of my dads cancer journey is on my profile if you were interested in that x
