Mum passed yesterday - feel numb and strange

Hi,

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mum died 4 months ago, it was very sudden, we had about 5 weeks with her and watched her deteriorate very quickly. But the day she passed away I almost felt relief that it was over for her. I was sad but not like I expected and I suppose I was in shock.

Anyway I'm not sure there is a right way to feel, whatever you feel is what you feel. It definitely changes over time too. And it hits you in different ways, different types of feelings. It's so recent for you, I think try not to feel guilty and just feel what you are feeling and that way hopefully you will look after yourself too.

Nat

I feel completely the same. It's been a month for me and although I felt very emotional at her funeral. I largely feel just numb - like I'm in a holding room, waiting for grief, as I imagined it, to hit me.

From what friends have said this is fairly 'normal' - I guess it's just day by day moment by moment.

I am so so sorry for your loss x

I lost my Dad on the 23rd December to mesothelioma, tbh with cancer and when there’s been an extended illness (6 months for my Dad) I think without knowing you do a lot of your grieving while they’re still alive so like others say once they pass it’s almost a relief they’re not in pain anymore.

im so sorry for your loss, I can only tell you with time you learn to remember them with a smile again. X

I would say there is no such thing as normal. My mum died of ovarian cancer 30 years ago. I still remember it vividly and think about her all the time. But everyone is different, don't worry about being 'normal' just cope in your own way and in your own time.