How to cope after loosing my wife of 33 years

Dear  Reggie64

Im going through the same process having been married for 50yrs. I didnt do counselling although  some find it helpful. Keep talking to your kids. And allow them to talk. And yes-  cry in each others company. I've howled like a wolf on so many occasions. Just let the hurt out. And afterwards there's often a kind of peace that causes you to stare into space, your mind totally numb of thought or feeling. And talk to your dear wife. She's still there in your heart and thats all that matters. Theres  no expert on this planet that has the answer to bereavement. Its a  personally  painful  and  unique experience. Much of my time is moving through life zombie fashion although as time passes I find times when life has some kind of meaning. But  I'm still working through my loss just over a year later. 

Love and Light 

 Geoff x

dear Geoff thanks for your reply   I  am finding it ever so hard to get my self out of the house at this moment I do find that when I do go out I am not to bad but seem to want to get back to my comfort zone with the kids I fell  that people mean well but I fell they just don't understand my pain I just keep telling myself I have got to be strong for my kids I fell that I am the weakest link at the moment I don't know how I would get through this without my kids they keep telling me to not be so hard on myself thanks to everyone that has posted there support best whishes to you all Reg

Dear Reggie64,

I Lost my husband of 47years ten days ago and I know exactly how you feel. I am lost in a bubble of disbelief and sorrow and I really don't know what to do with myself. i have lots of close family around me and lots of friends waiting to support me, but it is so difficult when you have been so close to someone for so long. I know I need time, and you  will too. it is a terrible thing to know others are feeling this pain which can not be described  in words to anyone else. I just know we have a long journey ahead, and our loved ones will alway be with us. I just know I only feel so bad because I had so much love in my life. I'm sure that is the same for you. Our children are our blessing.