Loss Of My Father

FormerMember over 4 years ago

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I have recently lost my father, I can’t even put into words, the grief I feel. Dad was diagnosed with SCLC November last year. He was diagnosed upto 12 months with treatment. His chemotherapy treatment was amazing, no side effects at all. Due to Covid 19 his radiotherapy was changed to shorter, harder sessions. Dad really struggled with radiotherapy. The tumor successfully did shrink. Then out of nowhere it returned with a vengeance. Within a few weeks, Dad passed away.

I can’t get over the grief and somewhat guilt of never seeing him again. I have visited him twice in the chapel, which I do find comforting. I miss him so much, it really hurts. I have developed anxiety, which I’m now being treated for. I really feel I have been left with a broken heart. I’m 39 and my Dad was only just 61. He was fit, healthy and just thought he had a cold. How does anyone get over this or even learn to live with this. I knew this would be hard, but never thought it would be so painful. Xx

FormerMember over 4 years ago

I don't think anyone learns to "get over it". Everyone grieves differently. My mother passed away 19 months ago and just today, something happened that triggered a memory that nearly brought me to tears. Time eases the wounds. But the thing that helped me the most was not learning to live with the loss but living for my mother's memory. A lot of things I do now are things I do to preserve her memory for my kids and future generations to know the woman I got to know for some many decades. I tell my children all the time memories of my mom and write others down for when they are older. I also do some of the charity work that my mother found important to her. Doing those things keeps her present in my life even though she is no longer physically here and that gives me a lot of comfort.

Best wishes.

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