My 80 year old mum died early this morning

I'm so sorry for your loss, its so difficult and I can understand how you are feeling as I lost my Dad in November, worse thing I've ever had to deal with by far and still dealing with his loss now. Coping is just what you will do whether you try to or not. For me, it was literally hour by hour in the first few days and then day by day after that. You will go through every emotion under the sun and more. I can only speak from my experience but you will get through this, it hurts like hell, you will be sadder than you've ever been, you will overthink things, get cross and just feel totally overwhelmed, but... these are normal feelings to have and hopefully you have loving people around you to help you get through, particularly in the early weeks. It helped me to talk about my Dad to anyone who would listen! and to remember the good times as its not their illness that defines them which I certainly didn't want to be the case.

I really am sorry that you have lost your mum, please continue to reach out, there are others that know how you feel and can give you some words of encouragement or support. Please take care of yourself xx

It hurts and be ready for the physical symptoms - no one teaches snot these - as a teacher I find this a strange part of English mentality we are rubidium at grief. But it hurts like hell - emotionally we expect but expect it don’t be scared by muscle aches chest pains but if bad see Gp indigestion fatigue it’s a whole body experience / get help sometimes there aren’t enough friends or they are too close. Ppl say make time for you and you think how the hell do I do that but you need to for you and to connect with your loss - a walk a swim a drink alone in a coffee shop or a bar. Good luck G-d bless xx 

I’m so sorry for your loss. We do want warning, we want time to prepare, to say the things we want to say, to hold their hand. Sending you love and strength.