My uncle/godfather

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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Missing you lots uncle, i can't get over the torture cancer brought to you and having to watch you slip away.

Uncle Barry was such a selfless person, did everything he could to help the lost and broken (including myself at the time) i was so blessed to have him, never thought i could ever be best friends with an uncle, quite rare. But he was always more of a Dad to be than an uncle. I was privileged to have lived with him the last few years of his life.

I never forget the day we found out his cancer was terminal, so unfair. I return his love and kindness, i did everything i could to care for him through his difficult journey of cancer. Now i feel guilty that i couldn't be there more for him and can not believe he is gone. Sometimes i am happy for him as i know he is in a much better place and he is no longer in pain of his personal circumstances but still finding it to get over all that happened

In a way it feels like he is just on a really long holiday. So strange never lost anybody so close to me before in such a tragic way...

FormerMember over 5 years ago

Hi HoneyB08, I'm so sorry for your loss and its obvious that you had a very close relationship with your uncle. I'm sure you did all that you could for him at the most difficult of times and you should be proud of that as I'm sure he would be proud of you. Caring for someone with cancer is such a challenge and brings a whole host of emotions to the surface even before they pass. I cared for my Dad and it was the most heartbreaking thing I've ever had to do, but I am so glad I was there for him when he needed me the most. I'm sure that when I am able to overcome the crippling grief I feel right now that it will give comfort to me that I was with him at the most vulnerable time in his life, and repay some of the amazing things he has done for me.

You are grieving and with that comes reflection, sadness, sometimes a smile at the thought of the amazing person they were. I wish you well and you have paid tribute to your uncle in your kind words about him.

Take care xx

FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Hi thankyou so much for your kind words. It's so strange it just feels like he is still with just on a really long holiday. I was more annoyed and crushed with the family drama surrounding it all they were so insensitive.

I find comfort knowing that he is in a much better place now, no more pain or grief. I pray you find that comfort too, your Dad was so blessed to have you be there for him.

God bless xx

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