Lost my mum to cancer this year

Hello, I am so sorry you lost your Mum. I. find grief a very lonely experience but you have done the right thing writing a message. Today is 6 months since my mum died from breast cancer. I just feel a deep deep sadness. Christmas was hard without her. I hope you have friends and family you can talk to. I am not religious but I bought a special candle and I light it on special days and it makes me feel a little better, I also wear her old cardigan and that makes feel closer to her on bad days. Try and plan some nice things to look forward to and I find going out for a nice long walk helps. It gives me the time alone to clear my head and I always feel better afterwards. You will be ok, take it one day at a time and allow yourself time to grieve. Your mum will always be with you in the things that you do as she is a part of you so try and take some comfort from that. I hope the new year brings you some happiness.

thank you for  getting back to me. my friends dont understand even tho they try i just keep my self busy ane its so hard knowing she not here anymore i might try and go for a walk and clear my hed that might work and thanks again. this helps two knowing someone is goin through what i am goin through xx

I totally understand about friends not understanding. I don't think they can until they lose their mum. I feel bad I didn't support my best friend as much as I should have when her mum died. It's not that I didn't care I just didn't understand the magnitude of it all until I lost my own mum. So it isn't that your friends dont care they just can't  feel what you are feeling right now, grief is so personal. There are always people on here to talk to and just writing it down helps. Sending a hug, 

can i ask does it get easier as time goes on cause i feel like its never goin to get any easier for me i was crying last night cause i miss her so much i carnt ring her or text or something happeing in my life thatvi want to tell her about its so hard my own parner doent know he still got his mum and its so hard that i carnt give her a cuddle or a kiss its time like Christmas and birthday and even mothers day that i am going to find it hard 

Too early for me to say its only 6 months since I lost my mum. But people say it does, you need to give yourself time. Everyone needs different amounts of time and handles it differently. Have you got any brothers or sisters? I live abroad amd used to swap messages with my mum many times a day and chat on the phone a lot. I now do that with my sister instead. It doesnt replace mum but it helps and it helps my sister too. 

yes i have a brother and a sister and we all so close and we do talk and everything and even meet up when we can and it does help its nice to talk to people that understand me what i am goin through and it will be hard fornthe next few months and thank you that really helpefull i miss her so much xx