Hello just wanted to know how other people cope at christmas time and the family occasions without a loved one?
My father passed away in May 2018 which has really broken me, I had given birth to my first child only 3months before. The first 3months of her life were spent with me running inbetween the hospital to be with him and then home to look after her. It should have been the best time of my life but it was the worst. That whole year was the worst as I then lost my job at christmas and had health problems probably caused by all the stress. I feel like i wasnt there for him and i wasnt there for her - i needed support after the birth but no one really helped me, it was a shock as i always thought my mother would be there for me but she was too busy with dad.
just feel traumatised by it all and now with christmas it brings everything to the surface again but more so that i miss him so much and my daughter will never know him makes me sad beyond belief, not sure how to put on a brave face for christmas and to make sure she does not take on board any of my stress or sadness.
Thank you for reading xxx
Tomorrow will be my first Christmas without my mum so although I can’t speak from experience, I plan to do my best to enjoy Christmas as mum and I both loved Xmas.
Its okay if your daughter sees you cry tomorrow- you can tell her all about her amazing grandad and teach her about him. My mum lost her dad when she was young but as I grew up she would tell me stories about the wonderful and kind man he was. I never knew him but through her talking I feel like I did a bit.
i hope that you can have parts of tomorrow which bring you great joy and peace and that remembering your dad can bring you comfort too.
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