Evening, i recently lost the love of my life and am now arranging her farewell. i have no family close by and am on my own apartfron our beloved great dane . somedays areutterkyshite , others "normal"
what are teh next few weeks going to be like
FormerMember
Firstly, I want to say how sorry I am for your loss, and I hope that you are taking care of yourself. It is a hard time to go through and truly feel for you if you don't have much support network around you.
The next few weeks, if my own experience is anything to go by, will be tough. There's no sugar coating it. I lost my mum 9 weeks ago today and have good days and bad days. The worst thing is the effect it has on your sleep. I'm permanently exhausted it seems now. I can't sleep well at all.
If you have taken time off work, then take as much as you need. Don't go back too soon. I found in the weeks following my mum passing were very busy, arranging the funeral and the wake, registering her death and generally supporting my dad etc. I never really had a moment to myself to start to grieve. It's important to take that time and don't over do it. I feel staying too busy, for me at least, almost delayed the grief and when it finally hit it was overwhelming.
People said to me when I returned to work "it's good you're back it'll help things get back to normal." This isn't strictly true. Nothing is ever going to be my normal again. You have to find a new normal really. And that takes time.
Most importantly, take time for yourself and look after yourself. Make sure you're eating well.
You're welcome to message me if you like even if it's just for a chat or some support if you feel the need.
