Hope my Grandma is proud

I’m sorry about your Grandma. We are lucky if we have a unique strong bond with a Grandma - they make us feel safe, loved, happy and teach us so much. I’m sorry you are feeling such pain at the moment. As you say, I believe your Grandma is proud of you and willing you on in a different way which we can’t comprehend.

It’s so difficult, but please keep talking and living for your Grandma as you know she would want. Keeping talking if you need to; grief is a very individual journey but lots of people care and want to help as best they can. You are not alone despite how it may feel. Crying is healthy as is thinking as if you were speaking to your Grandma. Don’t be scared of these feelings. If you want grief counselling to talk through your feelings some more that may also help. Take one day at a time x 

I was lucky enough to have a Grandma like you that was my rock in a crazy world. I miss her like crazy too, and have just lost my Dad, her son. I'm like...where's the manual I still had so many questions. 

I was executor of her estate along with Dad, that was horrible wrapping up her possessions that none of the family wanted, but good as gifted to her choice. 

For me and loosing my only grandparent it got a little more emotive before i started to heal. The 1st anniversary without warning I broke down in tears when I answered the phone at work. 

I made a memory box with my Grandma's Passports loving her late  1970's pic and other things, like letters and photos of the house. And now my Dad is going to join, hope they get on!

Oh and I have also put on weight, but let my self off, give your self some slack, your world has just rocked 360 and some! 

Here if you want to chat hopeisallaround

It’s been almost 3 months for me aswell since I lost my nan. I don’t feel like it’s getting easier at all and I’m still thinking about her every single day. So many things remind me off her like hanging out the washing because she told me off for doing it wrong. I’m struggling because I work in a pub/restaurant and we decided to have my nans wake there and now when I’m working I’m only thinking of my nan and feeling hurt and nearly crying at work. I’m only 16 and this is the first grief I’ve really ever felt and I’m just really really struggling. 

I struggle getting my head around the fact she’s really gone and I’m never gonna speak, see or hear her again and it’s just not making sense in my head that that’s true  it doesn’t make sense she’s not gonna be there on my birthday this month or at Christmas  

Every now and then I read through our old text messages and They just make me so sad but I love reading them, it’s like hearing her speak. I haven’t been to her house since she passed and I feel terrible because my grandad wants me to come round but I just can’t go there and her not be sat in her chair at the dining room table, moaning about football or how messy her sons are. 

I’m Just struggling a lot and I also struggle admitting when I’ve been crying or I’m upset so I’m hoping writing on here will help me a bit 

Tamsin xx

Hey babe, 

i came on here looking for reassurance that how i’ve been feeling was normal, and to be honest it seems like it is. I am also 16 and have lost my grandma just over two months ago and i can tell you it’s so hard, when u said you just want to hear her voice feel her touch again i feel that on every level. For me the first month i didn’t cry as it was all a dream to me and i didn’t accept what was going on. It took me to see her lying in her coffin to make me realise, it’s very hard and no matter how many times someone tells you it will get easier we always believe it won’t but have trust in god that she’s in a better place and has been granted her angel wings. 

One thing that was said to me from someone that holds a special place in my heart is, think of the passing of someone as when picking flowers you only pick the best, in this case God took our grandmas as he knew they were the best, it is obvious god saw something special  in them that he knew was needed in heaven. She will always be your guardian angel, and there will even be times she’ll send you messages so you know she’s with you. 

I believe that the greater the grief the greater the love was, all the hurt you are feeling and the pain of losing her is all the love you wish you could be giving her if she was here. 

If you ever need to talk i’m here as well. I understand how your feeling totally. 

xxx

I have just read your little story that you have had to experience with the passing I am always here to chat I have done the brave for shave for Macmillan my partner had cancer in her lady bits it’s just so hard and worrying but we are warriors and people who pass we never forget them it don’t get easier in my opinion but we learn to cope with the loss but am just so glad my partner is here with me today