Dreading New Year

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Christmas was ok and we celebrated in my beautiful mum's honour and had lots of FUN. Just like she told us to and would have wanted. Of course we missed her more than words can say and we really kept her memory alive. 

Now the festives have ended and I'm back home. I literally am dreading the New Year. It's my Mums Birthday on New Years Eve too. I plan to just be in my pjs and chill with my dad and hubby. I really don't want the New Year to come. I don't want a year to start that my beautiful mum won't have lived in. I know it will come and I know I will find inner strength. If this year has taught me anything it's I'm stronger than I ever knew, I cope better than I ever knew. This is the hardest thing I have ever faced. It's werid but I know I can do this because my mum raised me and gave me all these skills. I just wish she was with me. I miss her so much, it still hurts like it was yesterday.   Xxx

  • A holiday is always something to look forward too, people may laugh but I think we do ask our Mums etc what should I pack, have I enough etc. Its not getting the answers that can suddenly make us sad, the repour, the bond we miss so much. 

    Animals definitely understand our thoughts and they know when we are upset and just need that valuable little gesture of comfort. Our Dog that died a few years ago used to come and rest her head on my knees whenever I was upset, animals are great really for coping with grief.   

    Remember rubber rings and life jackets available as even ducks need help from time to time as a friend once said to me and I found this really funny picture I will share which simply speaks volumes

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    FormerMember in reply to GBear

    Oh those ducklings in little life jackets did make me smile Hatched chick Hatched chickSlight smile x

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    Hello lovely ladies

    Hope you are all ok? Sunshine - are you still sunning it up on your hols? GBear - LOVE the duck picture. Made me laugh. We didn't make the sock over Easter in the end - we spent most of it outside in the sunshine but I'm storing it up for another rainy bank holiday weekend (not to be negative about our British weather of course)

    I just wanted to send you over some good news. Yesterday I got offered a 2020 London Marathon place by a charity called 'Ovacome' they support women who have been affected by ovarian cancer and although they are half the size of Target Ovarian, have actually been going longer. I called them yesterday and just asked simply if they were doing places and they said they decided this year to not do a ballot but offer places to first come first served! I am over the moon and now I am running for another meaning. 

    In other news, I finish my current job on the 8th May and start the new one on the 13th - so all go! Have had a few little bumpy waves but the running really helps.

    Thinking of you all always,

    Kate xxxxx

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    Hi All, just a quick one

    Well done Kate that's fab news what you're got a place in the London Marathon and to be doing in in honor of your mum, I'm pretty sure she would be super proud of you! I'm glad to hear you are enjoying your running too and it helps. Really wish I could get into running myself, doing lots of brisk walking instead ; )

    Also good luck with your new job as you said it's all go!  I hope you will be happy in your new job. 

    Bumpy waves here too but trying to keep going the best I can.

    Hope you are all ok

    Take Care

    Louise xxxx

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    Hello

    In haste...as usual, sorry.....

    Fab news ! We will be with you (virtually) every (running) step of your journey!

    Sorry to hear about yours and Slight smile’s bumpy waves - sending you and anyone else who needs them calmer waves and bigger oars to ride over the bumps until they arrive Slight smile

    Love to all, hope you’re all ok

    xxx

  • Very proud of you , Kate its really wonderful thing to hear you got a place in next years London marathon, its harder to get a place then people think. So its a fantastic achievement and Mum will definitely be proud looking down at you and giving you strength to finish it.

    Life jackets and dingles coming your way . Hope its enough to keep you a float during these bumpy seas you find yourself.

    How are you all , and ? I hope your all doing alright, remember dingles and life jackets willing to be provided.

    I am going though a bit of a rough patch at the moment I miss my friend so much at the moment. But I know this wave will pass. I am off to wales and seaside Friday till next Tuesday a great distraction really, the weather fingers crossed is suppose to be OK, so see what happens really.

    Big hugs to all

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    Hi guys, xx

    Yes still on my holibobs. So relaxed. Weather dry but over cast. Not stopped us xxx.

    We have walked miles. Such a beautiful part of the world. Poor old Stanley is shattered. So are all of us. Its, all that sea air and a lovely dinner and a few glasses of fizz. Everyone is in bed. My fella snoring before head hit pillow. Don't think I'll be long. Xx 

    Had my waves, this week, This was where my mum and dad came on their, last holiday. She loved it and always talked about us coming here. But that makes me very sad. Then I remember she told us to have fun. Xx She would love all we been up too. Xx She would love Stanley, has been racing around on the beach like a loon. That we are all relaxed and happy. She would be over the moon, my dad is smiling and laughing (as we all are) We so needed this XXX Time out to be us. Shame my sister and family couldn't come for various reasons. We miss them loads. Next time. Xx Wish I could remember, how to share a picture. I would of Stanley on his holidays. Xx 

    Awww Kate that's fantastic. XXX My cousins both are running in memory of my mum and their dad. For a charity that supported us, with a home from home. Whilst mum was in hospital, enabling us to be by her side in toughest times. Xxx So I will definitely be in London, cheering them on.

    I will cheer you, on too XXX Such a great day and for fantastic causes. Xx

    I'll have to think of a novel way of you spotting me. We normally stand at Shadwell, as you can see two points from here.  Aww GBear sending a hug. Xx Have a relaxing break. I really under estimated, how much I needed it, till I was here. Xx Grief is exhausting and time and space is important. 

    As I started writing this. I had to stop.

    One word. Stanley!! 

    I was up with Stanley, three times last night, I think his unsettled sleeping in a strange place. So tonight within, 5 minutes his at the door, crying. Must admit I've caved, opened the bedroom door and put his bed at the bottom of our bed. He is now snoring too!! I need a good night sleep. Such a little prince.  

    Wishing you a calm week aheadXx 

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    Hello SPu and all

    I needed those big oars last night, such a big wave hit me. Calmer today. Fantastic news about Kate isn’t it, we are so pleased. Glad that your having a relaxing time Sunshine. Your right about grief, it is exhausting, after that big wave hit me, I went straight to sleep. Love the little picture GBear and have a relaxing time when you go to Wales, fingers crossed for the weather.

    Thinking of you all

    xxx

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    Wishing you all a peaceful bank holiday weekend xx

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    Hey all

    I hope you are enjoying your Welsh break and managing to get some rest.

    Also hope you had a good hols. Stanley sounds like a right tonic.

    Sorry everyone is experiencing big waves. Arm bands coming your way.

    My first birthday without Mum tomorrow. Although I was out for dinner Friday and been out today I have nothing planned for Sunday. Will try and go for a walk. Had a moment remembering being in hospital last year and Mum asking one of the nurses to buy a card for me - I can’t find where it got put and I’m panicking we left it behind. Not that Mum was able to write in it herself at that point but it was still the last card from her.

    Anyway, love and hugs to you all xxx