Worth getting a pet?

Hi Notok,

As a dog lover who has always had dogs, I cant imagine life without them, but the decision is a big one if you havent had one before. They offer so much, but we need to consider what we can offer them, and hopefully make sure you get a dog which matches with you and your lifestyle. I would urge getting a rescue, not a puppy. Any good rescue knows their dogs, and will check out that you can be matched with a suitable one. I have always had rescue dogs and they have all been wonderful. I am stage 4 breast cancer  (incurable) and having lost my last dog in June 2020, agonised about getting another. In the end I decided to adopt two elderly dogs - they can still walk and enjoy life but they dont demand too much ( low energy dogs) and I have planned for what happens if they outlast me. You and your wife dont have to consider that as she is treatable and cureable, but you do need to decide on what type of dog you want - know what breeds are suitable for your life - small/ medium/ energetic/lapdog etc. Do your research and then go to a local rescue and be guided by the staff. Some dogs which you might dismiss are in fact eminently suitable - greyhounds for example are usually quiet, laidback ( except around small creatures) and lazy, needing only a couple of short walks each day, and love lying on a sofa all day. Puppies are cute but they are much harder work than human babies - they need attention, socialisation, training and that could be a lot when your wife is wiped out by chemo and just wanting rest. Dogs in rescue are usually housetrained, and often come with a known history - like being taken in due to owners ill health, move to residential care, bereavement etc. Of course there are also the ones abandoned becuase the owners took a dog on with no idea of what it meant, what the dog needed, the costs etc, but rescue staff should be well aware of that.

Sorry if that sounds preachy, but you are considering a sentient creature who will give unconditional love once settled, and they deserve the best from us. In terms of your wife's mental health and wellbeing, a dog can be marvellous ( and for physical health, since they do require a daily walk or two). Good luck with whatever you decide.

I agree pets keep you going. But in your wife's situation. Have you thought of a Cat?  Check first but energy, time, and all involved may be too much. Just as one person could cope, doesn't mean youwife can. I had my Cancer operation in Nov 2023. Now June 2024.  And I only have one cat, which I manage okay.  She keeps me going, a reason to get up etc. But check with doctors first. But thought e idea of acat, something she can cuddle, talk to, and live.  For that is what it brings me.  Don't judge with others being fit enough.  You don't know what your wife is going to feel like.  You canlways " Foster" a cat first.  But that extra need to Care Will boost her whatever.  Mo.

Hi Notok,

So sorry to hear about your wife's diagnosis. Getting a dog for companionship is a great idea, but it's essential to consider the practicalities. With chemo and other treatments, energy levels might be low, and caring for a dog will require some effort.

If you think you can manage it with the help of other family members, a dog could bring so much joy and comfort during this tough time. Just prepare yourselves for the emotional attachment and potential challenges that come with it.

Discussing this with her healthcare team might also be helpful. Wishing you both all the best during this difficult time.

So sorry to hear about your wife's diagnosis.

Getting a dog can be great for companionship, but it's a lot of work, especially during chemo. Maybe consider dog-sitting or fostering first? That way, your wife can still get the benefits without the long-term commitment.

Talk to her medical team too, they can offer valuable insights.

Wishing your wife all the best during this tough time.