tgirl's blog

A and I are both in a bit of a semi surreal daydream at the moment, we know the surgery date but it is far enough away for us to feel pretty "normal" about life at the moment. We had friends round yesterday in the afternoon (truly wonderful friends who had spent the morning making homemade soup and brought flowers and cordial, bless them!) and we had a lovely few hours with them and laughed lots. Then we cleared out some…

I have always known that my bloke was one in a million, but it seems that was a little underestimation! Turns out, given today's results that he is one in a billion. Let me explain ...... After sitting in the waiting room in the hospital with interview stomach of what seemed like an eternity we were called through. We thought we were seeing the specialist uro-oncology nurse from the department so we were somewhat surprised…

I am one of life's worriers. I know this and have rationalised it into a "I'm just always prepared for the worst" mantra that actually is a lame excuse. I have spent my life worrying about things completely beyond my control, from flying in a plane to making the right choices – I am the worst kind of control freak, so the last two and a bit weeks, and the discovery that my other half has cancer had placed a massive question…

We are back from the hospital with mixed news from the kidney consultant. Obviously he was not going to give us any information regarding the histology report re: The Cancer. It was funny though, he kept trying to explain about the added pressure on the urinary system as a result of "the mass/the .. area/ the swelling/the lump" in the end I thought I'd better help the poor guy out as he seemed to run out of adjectives…

This weekend our next door neighbour's daughter was savagely murdered as she walked her dog through a local park in broad daylight. Her attacker did not know her, nor is there any motive for his attack. I have been thinking about this for the last few days. Although the diagnosis of A's cancer came as an incredible shock, and we were ill prepared for the immediate fallout, we have both been thinking of how lucky in…