Don't Give Up

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FormerMember

5 May 2012

Grandma had fluid drained from her Lungs on Thursday. It seemed to make her feel better. Me and my Dad did meet her doctor, a lovely kind woman. She told us in a few weeks Grandma can go home. Great news, it's what she and we want for her. She will need a Day Nurse and Night Nurse, so we can be sure she is well looked after. She needs wheelchairs, commode and her bungalow needs to be sorted for her arrival.

When the cancer was found, we also knew it was in her Liver too. Now my Aunt feels she was lied too about how bad the cancer was and how much it spread. No one has lied. We got told that and Grandma DOESN'T want treatment. It's treatable but it wont cure her. We can't force her to take help, it's her body not ours. We have to understand her reasons.

We are not sure long how she has left. Maybe we dont want to know. Give her the best we can give her, love her and make her smile. Keep her safe and warm. Love her till she is gone for good. Back with her huband and my Bampy, Joe. He died when I was 11. She did say he is waiting for me. I know he is but she will fight with us till she is ready to go.

FormerMember over 13 years ago

Hi Welsh Girl80

Well done in keeping up your spirits. My husband decided not to have any treatment like your grandma it would not have made a lot of difference to his prognosis and it would have made him ill so decided to enjoy the time he had left and might i say we did ask how long he had and he has doubled that and only just started showing signs of his illness. I do feel he has not got long left though but from the beginning i decided my role as his carer was to feed him well keep him happy and stress free and i feel it has paid off in adding the extra time. I feel it is an achievement and know i will get comfort from it when the end does come. So go on spoil your grandma love her and give in to her every whim and treat her like a spoilt child. She is so lucky to have a granddaughter who so obviously loves her and hey 80 is a fantastic age and i am sure you will have so many memories to hang on to. It sounds like she has had a fantastic life if she has managed to create such a loving and caring family.

Stay strong and make sure you keep smiling for your grandma. Stay in the present and do not look to far in the future that way you will enjoy whatever each day brings. Do not waste a second.

Love and Hugs Linda xxx
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FormerMember over 12 years ago

Thank you Linda for your kind words. Things have taken a turn. The nurses and doctors feel she hasn't got long left. I am going to post another blog about it now x
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