The will to live

Hi Teresa.  My heart goes out to you, your mum and, of course, your dad.  My mum was also very restless.  She couldn't settle and was constantly going from her wheelchair to a chair to her bed.  She just couldn't keep still. The nurse from the hospice sorted out some meds which calmed her down and allowed her to be at peace. 2 days after mum got the meds she passed away peacefully and I was grateful for that.  Mums nurse told me that they refer to the restlessness as terminal agitation.  It was very distressing to see my mum so agitated and although the meds possibly meant she passed away sooner than if she hadn't had them it was the right thing as mum didn't suffer.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  God Bless.  Caroline XX

Thanks caroline. Yes they told us it is terminal agitation and have given us some meds for him. Who knows how long it lasts. Should I stay over night from now or do i wait for the nurses to tell me as my husband will take time off. teresa xx

my thoughts are with you all

Hi Treetop,

Im so sorry to hear about your Dad, and what you are all going through.

I send you my strength,support,and caring.

I Hope when your Dads time comes he is at peace and painfree. You do what you feel is right,which

may give you all peace of mind.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

hi teresa

so sorry to hear what is happening, its an extremely distressing thing to witness someone you love in such a way. as for whether you should stay overnight or not - if it is possible, then if i were you i would stay. you can also be there for your mum then.

i wish there was something i could say to make it less painful for you, but i know there is not - so i simply send you my love and kind thoughts.

hugs, from claire xx