The will to live

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FormerMember

29 Nov 2010

The docters are amazed at dad. he hasnt eaten for 6 weeks. His prefered place to die is at home with mum. They treated him very well at the hospice but dads happier at home. Dad has been very restless and we called out the chapline from the hospice on sunday as dad is not at peace. We have tried to talk to him but he doesnt say anything. Its so sad as he has lost so much weight and is very out of it. They sent a Maire Curie nurse round on saturday night. I also stayed with mum and they have phoned today as one is coming tomorrow night. We know the end is near but i just want dad to be at peace. We dont know what he is going through and the will to live is so great. Mum has been given great support for willen hospice and they are coming 5 times a day now. I hope dad passes in his sleep and he is at peace and no pain. Love to all who are going through this painful journey. xx

FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Tree, bless you for what you are doing for your dad and mum. my thoughts are with you.

Rosie
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

HI Teresa

Thinking of you at this really difficult time. What you and your family are going through is very hard to bear, but I am sure that you dad will soon be made more comfortable, Try to make sure that you are not getting to exhausted as it is even harder to go through this without a little in reserve.

Thinking of you and sending you love and strength, words cannot not change the pain you are feeling just now but remember that everyone here are with you in their thoughtsxx

Love Sharonxx
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Thank you all for all the kind words x
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

Hi Teresa,

Sending hugs your way as I have been through the journey you are now on. No one is able to accurately say how long this part of your Dad's journey will last and to be honest, you may have a feeling about it and then you'll stay regardless of whether the nurses have said anything. I do hope your Dad remains pain free and passes peacefully when he's ready - as you have said you want for him.

This is very hard for your Mum and you and, as Sharon has said it can be exhausting, so really h am so very sorry you are in this situation. Take care. God Bless.

Love, Rose x x x
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FormerMember over 14 years ago

My mum suffered with terminal agitation. She stayed with us although unconscious for another two weeks after having been given her meds. The nurses said it was unbelievable how she still continued to hang on, and said that she must have had so much to sort out in her mind and to tidy up loose ends. Unfortunately she wasn't conscious for us to help her sort them out. The one good thing in our mind that for those last two weeks so was no longer in so much emotional and physical pain and seemed very calm. This helped my dad alot as he couldn't bear to see her in distress xx
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