My lovely Dad has been given about 6 weeeks to live .He has bladder cancer which has spread to his adrenal glands, tummy and lungs. He is such a proud and loving old gentleman of 84. We have such a special bond and I am finding it so difficult to accept he will be gone soon. I don't want him to suffer either so its like a double sided coin. I don't want him to die but I don't want him to live in pain either
To add to my heartache my husband has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer which has spread to his spine so all is very difficult at the moment. Paul's treatment is going well though so we are keeping our fingers crossed that the big C will be held at bay for a while .
I could do with some feed back to keep my chin up and try to live the best way we can . Its all new to us this awfull desease !!!!
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I am so very sorry to read you story. I am in a similar situation where by my darling mum was diagnosed last week and we have been warned it could be just weeks - Life's not fair! Mum had tumours removed from her bladder last june and a whole kidney removed last august - we thought it had all gone! Now we find she has a large tumour on her lung - which wasn't showing on the CT scan last July/Aug..hence this is why they say weeks as it';s grown so quickly!
Like you, I do not want her to suffer but I do not want to lose my mum either. Lot's of lovely people on here and other sited have said to make the best of every good day she has - not always easy though! In fact I went to visit this evening and both mum and dad were grumpy and agitated - very understandable, I had to leave quite quickly because I wanted to break down and cry...
Fondest wishes to you and you family - I will be thinking of you, perhapes we can help each other through what is going to be a very tough time in our lives.. x
have just read your blog and after writing my own and being really encouraged by others on this site, I thought I would try to pass it on! I am so sorry to hear about your dad, I too have a special relationship with my father and I cannot begin to imagine what you must be going through. I also completely understand what you say about the double sided coin that's how I feel about my mum in law who has bladder cancer. All we can do is be there for them, on their good days and bad days. Listening, when needed and comforting when needed. I will be thinking of you and your dad and husband. take care love annie
Thankyou so much for your reply. Its lovely to share these awfull things that life is throwing at us at the moment. We can help each other to cope better I think .
My Dad's not been grumpy but very depressed . He doesn't like to talk about it which is hard for me as I like to talk about it !!!
I hope your Mum copes with it the best way she can . Let me know how its going
Try to keep your spirits up Love to you and all your family xxx
Its very hard being a carer isn't it. We have such a different aspect of this awfull desease to what the sufferers have ? I do need some support emotionally and practically so talking to others in the same boat as it were does seem to help.
I wish your Mum in law all the luck Annie and we should keep in touch xxx
I just wanted to say hi and say how sorry I was to read about your dear dad AND your husband. You certainly have a lot to cope with. As you have already found, this site is a great place to come and pour out how you are feeling. You are not alone.
Just wanted to send you a hug and that i am thinking of you.
