I'm not going to scream, because I don't have the energy. But I will moan...
I've already told mother that we can't build her an annex as we are listed ( thank god) and now she's got a bee in her bonnet about me moving in with her because ' it's a lonely life'!! Er, I do have a husband!!!
Apart from the fact I cannot and would not move in with her because she's lonely, I can't get over how she would actually let me leave my husband..????
Is it me? Am I being selfish?
She's not had any more symptoms regarding her tumour lately, apart from muddled words and slow speech at the end of the day when she's tired ( although I sometimes suspect that's down to her swigging back the whiskey!!) I have a carer going in twice a day, she's overrun with neighbours popping in on her., I do her shopping, washing, iironing, cooking and cleaning... And she lives an hour away! I was hoping that because uncles now gone and things are settled at mums I could try and back off a little, but it seems that's impossible.
Im sometimes a bit stupid, and dim , but I'm not a hypocrite...and I want my life back!
So yeah I'm selfish!!!
I'm also going to be in her bad books because I've cancelled her credit card....It had to be done, Yankee Candles buy the dozen (£18 each) from QVC are not essentials.!!!
I'm not fed up guys so don't think I'm asking for sympathy, I just fancied a moan...So there I've moaned.
On the upside I've nearly got a swanky new kitchen where I can practice my Margo techniques... (kaftan included!)
And on Wednesday I've got a SPA DAY..LIttle My, think of me lording it by the pool in my too tight swimsuit with a cocktail!! ( yuk to the swimsuit bit)
I'm sooo looking forward to it and the friend I'm going with is just as dizzy as me and we usually get into some sort of pickle..last time it was my car alarm that was going off for ages while I was having a massage and had to run out in my dressing gown and slippers..not very elegant but hey ho!
Him indoors is taking this week off to do some things that involves diggers and such, so that could mean anything from redoing the garden to digging up the drive?? ...All good fun!
So that's my little life, but for all those who are having a rough time right now Im sending lots of Norfolk hugs and wishing you all you wish yourselves..
Xxx
FormerMember
Hi lo Ely lets get one thing straight you are not selfish !!!!! Your mum just sounds like a lot of other demanding mums around and from my experience you will never do anything right so please don't keep trying or feeling bad. You do plenty for her and from some of the stories she's lucky you do as much as you do. Lesser mortals would have thrown in the towel a long time ago. I am, however very concerned about QVC. They may go bankrupt now . Shame they don't have a toy version where she could play at buying the stuff without the money. Enjoy your spa day and ooooh cocktails!! Don't fall in the pool after one too many... Biggest hug to you Little My. Xxxx
' Hello well ' not difficult or unusual words are they Mr iphone ???? So why do you change them to drivel? I talk enough drivel without your interference thanks. Ps Mandy enjoy the new kitchen... Stuffed peppers first in the menu?? Oh I forgot they are now a work top. Pps can I come out of the fridge now ? It's cold and dogs keep barking at me xxx
You can't live your life for your mum. Some people do, and it always rather depresses me. But anyway: you can't live your life for your mum, and you shouldn't, even if she'd been the best mum in the world. Which yours was not.
Enjoy your lovely new kitchen! And your spa day! Coo.
Hi Mandy there is nothing like a chunk of emotional blackmail is there.Hils is right you can't live your life for your mum she can and has been a part of your life but you can't make all your life about her.You do and have done above and beyond as it is and I guess she will miss uncle but it sounds as if she has company with neighbours calling in and such like.Have a well deserved great time at the spa must say I'm a bit jealous but not begrudging don't fall in the pool and I hope the swim suit covers the important bits Cruton xxxx
You - selfish?????? Are you kidding girlfriend??????? You are a candidate for sainthood and don't you forget it. Your Mum is lucky you are so kind and loving because I'm telling you now I would have left her to her own devices by now!
LM don't worry about QVC! I have lots of friends who keep their profits up!
Hope 'Him Indoors' doesn't dig too many holes and that you enjoy your spa day because you really deserve it.
