Nlot so many tears today

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I cried a bit this morning - mornings are the worst when I wake up and realise it's not a bad dream and he's really gone.  Keeping busy is the answer so I signed and stamped all the letters I'd typed last night informing people of John's death - at least I've made a start but there's still a long list of people to tell (they're not so urgent so they can wait).

Planned to spend the day with my lovely friend Pat who I'm going on holiday with on Friday.  She arrived at 11 o'clock and we had a cuppa and ventured out.  I'd made an appointment to look at a mobile home - yes, I'm thinking about moving but wanted to look at one before I make my decision to sell the flat.  Perhaps I'm jumping the gun, considering how the market is, but we did see a lovely home, pristine and ready to move in to, on a lovely retirement site that permits pets and very central.  Giving it some thought.

Then we went to the beach and had fish and chips at my favourite cafe, just as John would have liked them - big fat chips and crisp batter on the fish.  Gemma had a sausage which I ordered specially.  A lovely walk and then a trip into town to post the letters and visit the local book shop where we bought a couple of games to take on holiday - Othello and Yahtzee and a pack of cards.  Then a cup of coffee and a piece of cake and back home.

My daughter and son-in-law came round to fetch my suitcases down from the loft - I HATE lofts!  We had a cuppa and talked about John - they both thought the world of him.   When they'd gone Gemma and I settled down to toast and Marmite and watched Emmerdale.  Then I did some ironing for my holiday - haven't touched the iron in weeks so there was quite a pile.

So, here I am.  Telling you all about how I've spent my day.   Hope you're not too bored! :0)

Tomorrow I'm planning to go back to my writing class for the first time in weeks. I got a lovely card signed by every member of the class the other day so I'm really looking forward to seeing them all. 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    ((((Madge))))) ive been thinking of you. Im so glad you have such a good friend and I hope you can have a nice restful holiday, you must be exhausted.

    Your writing class sounds interesting :)

    John is proud of you I`m certain of that

    Take care

    love scarlet xxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Madge,

    Sounds like a full day and not too much time to think. which could be a good thing.  A lot of your friends on here were there with you and shared your journey with John and understant to some extent what you are going through, how the hell would friends ever be bored listening to you starting to live again, even if only in small steps. I do understand life may never be 'Normal' again but you still have so much to live for.

    Love aand Hugs Mate xx

    John XX

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    (((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Madge,

    John has a great way with words, and hes always well nearly always right. But he does talk a lot of sense.

    Life will never be normal again. But you have a lot of happy memories.  Look after yourself.

    Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Madge, the very fact that you're picking up the threads is such a positive step.  Your determination to meet life head-on is inspiring and John must be saying "that's my girl" when he sees how you're driving yourself.  

    Do allow yourself a little time for reflection too, and I hope your break away from the world, with your board games and your friend Pat, gives you a bit of breathing space.

    Lots of love, Ann x