where has this anger come from?

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FormerMember

6 Mar 2010

I am starting to worry im going to flatten my mother in law. she is making me so angry , ive stood up to her but just gos in one ear and straight out the other, we have told her if hubby doesnt want to see her shes not going to see him but she thinks its her given right as she is his mother, " her words" and why wouldnt he want to see her " also her words ", so every time she rings i say the same and shes narky and im bloody fed up. i even said something to hubby after she rang this morning as was so cross but bless him he just said lets just get it over and done with again so she is coming at 5, unless i tell her otherwise, i cant even bear to be in the same room with her at the moment , i did speak to my sister in law but hasnt made any differance yet,

i just feel very much that the slightest thing is going to push me over the edge ,im doing ok most of the time but i can feel myself struggling if im honest, i just want to enjoy the precious little time we have left , sitting with hubby holding his hand which she says is a waste of my time !!!! but she then walks in and physically pushed me out the way so she could do just that, hubby was so upset ,but as usual he didnt have the energy to say anything ,to be honest hes too nice to her as wouldnt want to upset her .

All i can think now is god help her afterwards as i will not forget the way she has behaved, if she cannot respect hubbys wishes then she has already lost mine and even her granchildrens respect as they can see what shes doing and they are upset too,

i need to find some strength from somewhere pdq, just not sure where !!!!!!

FormerMember over 15 years ago

Hi Jenni, it is so hard dealing with demanding relatives, and can remember when my mum was ill, her sister came on her usual weekly visit, and i was stood outside crying, her words to me were stop that and think of others no one knew how bad it was for her, it was her sister dying, i kept my cool but it did hurt, then 6 years later she has breast cancer and is now longer here, thought of her words so many times, but am glad I kept my feelings to myself, allthough if my dog could have talked!!!! Try to think of something nice that you can do when she has gone home, take care XX
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

hi Jenni, I had much the same problem with my brother in law but thankfully he was too far away to visit so I just had to be "nice" on the phone. Then when he did visit he thought Bert looked really well but only stayed 2 days and refused to come when Bert was dying as he "could not cope". I honestly don't know how I managed to be civil at the funeral but I did for Bert's sake. I don't have to anymore and what a feeling of relief.

Grit your teeth and spend as much time with your hubby not talking about her hard as it may be but don't waste precious time on her.

Love Teri
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

Sending you HugsA very difficult situation Jenni, but you would think that your mother in law would be there for you, and its support you need not someone undermining you when you are trying to keep yourself together for your hubby's sake. Like Teri said try and grit your teeth, you have been so patchent, but it is her son and it must be heartbreaking for her , this is a no win situation for you unless you bane her from your house but i dont think she would take that without causing more disruption.

Sending you hugs , and we are here for you.

Love Lucylee. xxxxx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

oh this is so hard , im thinking of blue but also of the day ive had today, plz dont ask long story ,,, i dont know if i can do this ,my heart is breaking ,, so of course i can , i just need a hug , and will be fine:) xxx
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FormerMember over 15 years ago

((((((((((((((((((((( hug ))))))))))))))))))))))

i wish it were a real one for you xxxxxxxxxxxx
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