i am so angry , if i dont get this off my chest , i may do something stupid ,how dare you treat us like tihs !!!!

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Well i can not believe what my mother in law has done now , do i cry or do i punch someone or something i am so angry ,,

most of you prob know since ju,was diognosed she was a nightmare , treated me like dirt but i put up with it for him , sometimes it was so hard but i was always the better person, well at the funeral she told everyone i didnt care for him properly and he should have been in a hospice , well she had to leave as noone else believed a word she was saying,. i have no regrets over the way i cared for and loved ju ,i did everything possible , and was thier right till the end , and yet she still threw that in my face ,so i decided just to ignore her but said if kids wanted to see her that was fine , well came to scattering ju,s ashes i txt her and she refused to come , thank goodness i said, so she wanted a picture as a keepsake ,so me being nice person let her have it , not even a thankyou !!!, since then not one word from her , so we had tuesdays service in private , only me and the kids knew and one friend on here ,

well me and the kids have had a blissful family week (was meant to be our family holiday, booked before ju got poorly ) , so i was looking forward to this weekend , well thanx to my mother in law i now have 2 very very angry girls , i recieved a phone call just now to tell me jordan has put a very rude message on face book , my god i was shocked , but now i know why i understand !

My mother in law and julians ex girlfriend (of 18years ago ) have been putting pics of them both on their and making comments ,about how happy they were ect , and saying nasty things about me . but i dont know what as i deleted them both when ju died ,as they were giving me this shit then too ,and i couldnt cope with it , but my girls obviously still have their grandmother on thier ,and can see everything .so now understandably my girls are devastated , i cant repeat what jordan wrote but i was shocked , i have rung her and asked if shes ok , and whats up? but she being her has said its nothing for me to worry about ,i couldnt tell her i knew ,as she is trying to protect me ,so i just told her i love her very much and im here ,

now im left wanting to confront my mother in law , i dont give a shit about ju,s ex she has always been a spare part in our marriage , she has a screw loose , and i know without a doubt how much ju loved me , and what upsets me most is he would be devastated not just how his mum is treating me , but our children who have just lost their dad, how dare she !!!

i dont know how i feel now im very very angry, but i also want to cry the thought of my kids hurting anymore just breaks my heart , we have had such a nice healing week together and this has just ruined it , bloody woman , she better never turn up on my doorstep again, noone upsets my kids and gets away with it.

oh and i have written that on jordans facebook ,just so she can see it !!!!!!!!!!!

i wish she could see we are grieving, not bitter and twisted like she is ,,,,

all i can say is im very lucky ju was nothing like his mother, and neither are our kids , they are amazing ,strong and a credit to their dad xxxx

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Don't take the bait jenni, they are sick, sad excuses for human beings my sweetheart. You and Ju loved eachother and you have your kids, you guys are the ones that matter now. I think they are the ones with a guilty concious , what goes around comes around Jenni, all in good time my love...Carol xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    what a horrible excuse for a woman, after all you have been through you are better and stronger and more loved than she will ever be and there my love is I think the reason she is behaving as she does.

    As Carol says all in good time. She will be a very sad lonely old woman whilst you will be surrounded by the love of Ju in his heaven, your children, and all your friends.

    Ignore the old bag and treat her with the contempt she deserves.

    With love to you and your wonderful brave children.

    Vee. xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    What a nasty piece of work! I really would hate to be so bitter and twisted in life. Like the others have said if she sees she is getting to you she has won.

    My aunt also spread a really nasty rumour about me at my dad's funeral a few weeks ago and was overheard telling her story in the car park at the crematorium and it got back to me. When my mum confronted her about it she defended herself and even criticised me for not sitting beside mum at the funeral. My brothers and sister were with her on one side and I sat at the other side with my family. Something we, as a family, had arranged beforehand, but she really is just looking for things to stir up. She sounds very like your mother-in-law. Very bitter, nasty woman. I won't confront her about it, but I so hope she says something to me one day (which I know she won't), but I don't think she realised the hurt she has caused me at the worst time of my life.

    The best thing to do is to carry on becoming stronger Jenni and not let that nasty woman drag you down to her level.

    All the very best, Christine xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Dear Jenni, I've just read your blog and feel for you all.  Sometimes computers can enable people to be very evil so maybe its time to take your ma in law off the childrens' facebook and switch off the computer for your children for a while.  There are some really strange people in this world and, if they can, they will try and bring you down, child or not!  Explain to the kids these people are ill and we must not let them make us feel bad inside.  You all know how much you were loved by ju and that is the powerful tool you all, as a family, have.  Keep ju uppermost in all your minds and remember him - not evil.  Don't feed the evil and it will, in the end, give up.  Then,maybe one day your ma in law will realise all she has left of her son is his beautiful children and wife and if she wants to be in your lives it will have to be on all your terms or not at all.  God bless.Ann xx.  Enjoy everyday for ju.