i am so angry , if i dont get this off my chest , i may do something stupid ,how dare you treat us like tihs !!!!

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Well i can not believe what my mother in law has done now , do i cry or do i punch someone or something i am so angry ,,

most of you prob know since ju,was diognosed she was a nightmare , treated me like dirt but i put up with it for him , sometimes it was so hard but i was always the better person, well at the funeral she told everyone i didnt care for him properly and he should have been in a hospice , well she had to leave as noone else believed a word she was saying,. i have no regrets over the way i cared for and loved ju ,i did everything possible , and was thier right till the end , and yet she still threw that in my face ,so i decided just to ignore her but said if kids wanted to see her that was fine , well came to scattering ju,s ashes i txt her and she refused to come , thank goodness i said, so she wanted a picture as a keepsake ,so me being nice person let her have it , not even a thankyou !!!, since then not one word from her , so we had tuesdays service in private , only me and the kids knew and one friend on here ,

well me and the kids have had a blissful family week (was meant to be our family holiday, booked before ju got poorly ) , so i was looking forward to this weekend , well thanx to my mother in law i now have 2 very very angry girls , i recieved a phone call just now to tell me jordan has put a very rude message on face book , my god i was shocked , but now i know why i understand !

My mother in law and julians ex girlfriend (of 18years ago ) have been putting pics of them both on their and making comments ,about how happy they were ect , and saying nasty things about me . but i dont know what as i deleted them both when ju died ,as they were giving me this shit then too ,and i couldnt cope with it , but my girls obviously still have their grandmother on thier ,and can see everything .so now understandably my girls are devastated , i cant repeat what jordan wrote but i was shocked , i have rung her and asked if shes ok , and whats up? but she being her has said its nothing for me to worry about ,i couldnt tell her i knew ,as she is trying to protect me ,so i just told her i love her very much and im here ,

now im left wanting to confront my mother in law , i dont give a shit about ju,s ex she has always been a spare part in our marriage , she has a screw loose , and i know without a doubt how much ju loved me , and what upsets me most is he would be devastated not just how his mum is treating me , but our children who have just lost their dad, how dare she !!!

i dont know how i feel now im very very angry, but i also want to cry the thought of my kids hurting anymore just breaks my heart , we have had such a nice healing week together and this has just ruined it , bloody woman , she better never turn up on my doorstep again, noone upsets my kids and gets away with it.

oh and i have written that on jordans facebook ,just so she can see it !!!!!!!!!!!

i wish she could see we are grieving, not bitter and twisted like she is ,,,,

all i can say is im very lucky ju was nothing like his mother, and neither are our kids , they are amazing ,strong and a credit to their dad xxxx

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jenni

    sorry to read all that but some people are just idiots and don't appreciate what they could have in their lives. Their lives must be so empty to have to fill it with rubbish like that. Your mum-in-law will be the loser not you.

    Ju knew how much you loved him and how well you cared for him and that and your beautiful kids are all that matters.

    So don't let them spoil your lovely week. Remember what you have and she doesn't.

    Love and hugs

    Maxine

  • What a cow! At least you don't have to have anything more to do with your MIL and I'm sure your children are sensible enough to make their own minds up about their grandmother when they see how she behaves. I know it is hard to bite your tongue but it might be a good idea not to bad mouth the MIL in front of your children.

    I had a similar quandary when I really wanted to bad mouth my ex who abandoned me when I was pregnant. I really wanted to tell our daughter what a sh*t he was but had to wait for 21 years when she met him for the first time and she discovered what he was all by herself!

    Good luck,

    KateG

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Jenni, what a terrible thing to do but some of us humans are made from different moulds, thought I once had the mother in law from hell, but seems she may have come back in yours.You have no regrets but I bet she does, and is trying to hurt you and the children to cover up her own hurt. Try not to let it get to you, and all I can say  is had so many stand offs with mine, but the thing that hurt her most was when I said because she was hubbys mum I would forgive her, as i wouldnt have him without her, changed a lot from then, but was the hardest thing i ever did. Take care.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Anybody who knows the real you will know that lying bitter old woman is telling fibs about you and ju.  It serves her right if her grandchildren want nothing more to do with her and I hope she lives to regret it.  

    It is such a shame that she should spoil the wonderful few days you have had but do try to put her out of your mind jenni and move on.  You have such wonderful memories of your happy marriage, and so do your children.  

    Don't fall to her level and badmouth her as I'm sure you want to.  Hold your head high and remember that ju loved you.  That's all you need to know.

    We love you too and we're all on your side!

    *hugs* jenni - take a deep breath and throw darts at her photograph (if you have one) to vent your anger.

    Marjorie x x x x x x

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Dear Jenni - no matter what they throw at you, you had the love of your dear husband, and you are Mum to his lovely children. What they say and think is not important. Just hold on to that. Sending you and the children love and comforting hugs. Val x