Judi' blog

  • What I miss the most

    FormerMember
    FormerMember
    As a husband you were the best, and maybe it is only now I am appreciating quite how much you did and how well you did it.  I know that I am quite capable of looking after all the paperwork, all the banking, all the DIY – truth be told I just don’t really want to do it but have to.  Probably neither did you, but I don’t remember you making such a big deal of it as I now do. 
     
    As a lover you were …… mine…
  • Sliding Doors

    FormerMember
    FormerMember
    Hi darling - You used to tease me about my fascination with the idea that our lives can change just by making a different decision, by choosing to go for a coffee instead of going home, by picking a different holiday destination, anything really.  Then along came that chap and made a whole film about the concept “Sliding Doors”.  I loved it, you thought it was okay first time round, tolerated it second time…
  • Thank you darling

    FormerMember
    FormerMember
    I know that really it is tomorrow and not today that is a year since you left, but it was a Monday, so for me it was today.  I am just back from going to see you, but you know that because the sun came out when I was there, and you are my sun.
     

    ‘So how has this year been then Judes’ - you ask. Well darling, more tears than laughter, more sadness than joy, more loneliness than I could have imagined.  But then…

  • Nearly a year

    FormerMember
    FormerMember

    In some ways I can't believe it will be a year soon, it does seem so long ago that you were here, but this last eleven months have had such an odd feel about them.  It is all a bit Groundhog Dayish, every day passing but time not moving on.  I do see that the rest of the world is carrying on, I just seem to be in a bubble of sadness watching it all but not being part of it.  And although I am terrified of the anniversary…

  • Sadness rather than anger

    FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Not such a hard day today, don't know why, maybe I ran out of tears after yesterday.  But in the spirit of it being a better day today's list of the things that make me angry are not so intense - more of the sad/angry.

    Hair - How many years did I get my hair done at home because I didn't like my hair and couldn't see the point in spending a lot of money.  You persuaded me to go to a salon, but even then…