Christmas

Im sorry you are going through this but you are indeed a wonderful support to everyone as well as taking care of your daughter. Take care of yourself too as you are so important. Keep telling your pop how much you love him  as love helps no matter what and I hope you can have happy times still, love leisha xx

Hi Nicola,

Your Family want to start taking responsibility for

your Pop you are not the only one in the Family.

You have your own life to live and your health to look after yourself.You cant keep looking after your Pop on your own you need some Family help. To give you a break every now and then. If I where you I would have a chat with family and sort out some

caring for your Pop. If you keep doing it on your own you will make yourself ill.

Take care and be safe Big Hugs Love Sarsfield.xx

hi Nicola

I'm glad that your Pop got home to spend christmas with you, even if it wasn't the day you had planned. It is really hard to cope wih everyday life when you are caring for someone wth cancer, and there are bound to be days when you feel that it is all too much. The only advice that I can give is to take each day one at a time and try not to think too much about what lies ahead. That way you will make the most of every day with your precious pop, and not have any regrets that you wasted time worrying about the future.

Don't try to take everything on by yourself, talk to your family about how you feel, and try to put even 20 minutes aside each day just for you, to recharge your batteries, as you must be careful not to run yourself into the ground. You will cope Nikki, it isn't easy but from somewhere within the strength will come to get you through.

Thinking of you , with love, sharonxx

thinking of you..... stay strong know its so hard to do sometimes but sharon is right you have to put sometime aside for yourself !!!!!

take care

love jenxxxxxx

Four months is a short time, and Im sure youre still getting your head around some of the things that are happening.    

My father started to feel unwell, was diagnosed, and died all within the space of 6 weeks. His cancer was very aggresive and like you said he went from someone who didnt look his age, and was active to someone I didnt even recognise.  So I understand and relate to what you have said.  

When you wrote people think youre the strong one and handling it, i completely understand that.  But its important that you find someone for you to talk to.  It may be difficult to speak out about what your fears are, your questions, but you have to deal with it as well and not be the "strong" one for everyone else.

Everyones story will be very difficult but the comments above are correct. You hit the nail on the head when you said theres only my love for my pop and my family that keeps me going and im going to cherish every minuite of it.

I think you should approach the subject with your family about getting some time to have a "normal" and i use that word lightly as its never far from your mind, life with your daughter, Take each day as it comes as there will be good and bad days and take each step at a time.   There will be times you want to scream and times you will find yourself crying over the smallest things, its normal.