We got the worst news today. Our lovely, kind, newly-married son (9months) has a tumour too. My cancer is hereditary. And he has a tumour measuring 11 cms in his abdomen next to the left kidney. I am beyond grief - I feel sort of dead.
When you know you have cancer yourself, and it's an incurable type it's bad enough. When you find out your only child has it too - well, multiply that bad feeling by about a 1000.
Sorry if I sound self-pitying. Actually all my pity is for him. Ok - maybe a bit's for us.
He has to have an MIBG imaging scan, then a kidney function test (they can't tell yet if it's actually attached to kidney) then major surgery in about 3 weeks or so. I know exactly what he will go thru because I had it. And it was hell.
My poor mum. I'm her only child and my son is her only grandchild. I have a sister on my fathers side, and she has it too. My father is the carrier.
My husband is so strong, but I know he's dying inside. I intend to be there every minute for my son - and I have to be honest and say that's all that's keeping me going. I am so not a drama queen - far from it - but I honestly feel a fine line away from flipping at the moment.
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Jeanie
I don't what I can say, my heart goes out to you and your family. I have an incurable cancer as well and am concerned that this may be genetic but we can do more than be there for each other - none of us asked for this.
Take some time for yourself as well so you are feeling strong enough to see your son through his treatment - one day at a time and as everyone else has said, we are all here to support each other.
Jeanie - I'm really not sure what I am going to type, but I feel i need to reply. I saw your blog entry the other day and have been logging on and checking for the results - and hoping! How is your son? And his wife? I am guessing he is quite young. My partner (who has bowel cancer) is 32. We were meant to get married next year and hoped to start a family straight after. It must be so hard for your family. I really don't know what to say. I guess from somewhere deep within, you all need to be strong for each other, and somehow find strength in that you are all going through this together. I'm guessing the feelings at the moment are those of numbness (which alot, if not all, of us have been through). You know to log on here though whenever you need that little bit extra. Thinking of you, your son, his wife and your family.
all i can say is i do know how really awful you will be feeling
my son is close to the end of his 4 months of chemo
he has testicular cancer - secondaries in his abdomin
there was a large one pressing on a kidney and the largest pressing on his vena cava
(main artery which feeds the lungs) ........... the first couple of weeks was a truly horrendous time for me and im fully fit! -i think? - worry /stress /panic attacks ..... but staying strong and focussed for him and the rest of our family
the good news is things have improved 99% .... he is doing so well - the tumours have shrunk 50%
the docs are really pleased with his progress
your son maybe is lucky because without you being ill ...... it would have carried on un-noticed - at least now he can be treated ! - perhaps YOU have saved his life!
you will find an inner strength i truly believe that - as i have done
i shall say an extra little prayer for you and your family tonight
