We got the worst news today. Our lovely, kind, newly-married son (9months) has a tumour too. My cancer is hereditary. And he has a tumour measuring 11 cms in his abdomen next to the left kidney. I am beyond grief - I feel sort of dead.
When you know you have cancer yourself, and it's an incurable type it's bad enough. When you find out your only child has it too - well, multiply that bad feeling by about a 1000.
Sorry if I sound self-pitying. Actually all my pity is for him. Ok - maybe a bit's for us.
He has to have an MIBG imaging scan, then a kidney function test (they can't tell yet if it's actually attached to kidney) then major surgery in about 3 weeks or so. I know exactly what he will go thru because I had it. And it was hell.
My poor mum. I'm her only child and my son is her only grandchild. I have a sister on my fathers side, and she has it too. My father is the carrier.
My husband is so strong, but I know he's dying inside. I intend to be there every minute for my son - and I have to be honest and say that's all that's keeping me going. I am so not a drama queen - far from it - but I honestly feel a fine line away from flipping at the moment.
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i really am, i dont know what to say. i have only one child, a daughter, and both me and mum have breast cancer and it worries me sick that she`ll get it, so very very sorry my heart goes out to you. liz xxxx
Yes, you did get very bad news. It is amazing to me how it hits families. You said yours is inherited. Take one day at a time. And your son has you to lean on as you have been there. We are all here for you if you need us for whatever you need us for. Go ahead...yell...I'd be angry too. Just don't forget to come back to us...we're here to listen and help.
Oh Jeanie my heart goes out to you, I would endure a million courses of treatment rather than my own children suffer the same as me so I can empathise with how you are feeling. You are entilted to be feeling sorry for yourself, and if you want to be a drama queen, thats fine too. As you will know, support is here in abundance, you are never alone, we will listen to you rant and rave, scream and shout. We will cry with you too, (which is what I am doing at the moment). Much love to you and your family. xxxxx Helen xxx
