my op

So sorry Claire you are having such a

bad time. Why would people be taking

the mick out of you, how would they like

to be in your place. You have only just

had your op, so you have to give yourself

time to heal. Dont you have friends or

family that can help you, you really need

to talk about your problems, you know

you can always come on here and get

things off your mind, but its not like one

to one with someone, Talk to your mac

nurse, im sure she will sort something

out for you. Sending a BIG HUG, wished

i could do more to help you, you can pm

me anytime if you want to talk.

With Love Lucylee. xxxx

You poor brave girl.  Please take Lucylee's advice and talk to your Mac nurse. Perhaps she could help you to find some company over Christmas.  Saddly many people who never had to deal with cancer don't know how to treat those who do.  true frilends will still love you and value you for just being you.  The others..... well can't put my comment in print.  

Love and cyber hugs

Daffie

Claire, am sending you a hug.  You are NOT a freak! One step at a time, honey. Get the cancer sorted first and then discuss things with your doctor later.  Put the mirror away and let your body do its healing.  You are very brave to even want to look - I didn't want to look at my stitches when I had my chest drain out!  What a wuss, eh?

Love, Woozle.xx

Hi Claire,

Dont be too hard on yourself hun, you have just had major surgery and are biound to be feeling low, its bad enough when family are around so it must be really hard for you, is there no way that you can recuperate with any of your family. Like Lucy says contact your Mac nurse and tell her your financial state and ask if she can put you in touch with the right goverment department (if there is one). You are vey brave to have looked at the op site, I had mastectomy last month and it took me ages to look at the scar but if that is what it takes to be rid of this horriblke thing then its worth it. The waiting for the results is horrible but hopefully you will get good news that they got it all, when do you find out, We are all here for you so just shout whenever you need us.

take care love Terri xxx

I have the sensitivity of the average gate post, and a heart like a swinging brick, but sometimes us men stumble our way in the right direction. When I first met my former girlfriend, and on the first time we discussed her breast cancer, she told me that I would never see her without a bra on because she was a freak. I said "Yes I will, because you will trust me enough, not because I insist on it"

The point I am making is that while she saw herself as deformed, I was looking at her and thinking "Wow she's got some bottle"

Bren.