Carol-Anne or Carlie

The chatroom can't be brought down by your terrible loss, the people will rally around you and hopefully empathise and support you.  Yes we try to have a laugh in the face of advsersity in there, but its a support system and if you need, it will be there for you.

Don't be afraid to say exactly whats on your mind, there are other recently bereaved people who use the chatroom and although they have lost partners not children, they will understand your anguish and grief.

Speak up, bottling it up is no good for you.  You may be surprised at the reaction and feel better for it.

Love & Strength

Debs xx

Cancer is such a swine of a disease. You expect it in oldies like myself, but when children are affected !!! You have suffered the greatest loss anyone can ever face, we expect parents to go before us, even siblings and spouses but never our children . Do not feel uncomfortable talking about how you feel. Don't worry about bringing the conversation down. We are all in this together and one thing you will get from here is support from us all. Take care Kath xxx

Oh Megan......... i am so sorry. You must let us know how you feel, we don't always feel that good ourselves and even tho the room is upbeat and laughing the minute you say those words someone will be there for you. Big hugs and thinking of you. Will ask you next time how you really are feeling if you say ok!

Love karen (coughdropannie) xx

My heart goes out to you hun. What a terrible, terrible thing to have gone through. It hasn't been that long since you lost your wee one, you are bound to be in a state.

Have you been offered any counselling? I'm not saying it will work wonders, but at least you can offload to someone who will listen and understand. We can't always do that with those close to us as they are going through the pain themselves.

Your GP would be a good port of call also, if you haven't already done that.

As the others have said, the people on this site are here for you and you can say what you like and we will understand completely.

Go easy on yourself hun, you have been through so much.

Sending lots of love your way. Christine xx

Not sure I can add a lot that has not already been said, everyones heart goes out to you.

Although everyone will eventually get over the loss of a parent or partner I dont think a parent will ever completely get over the loss a child.

Things will get better - but it will take time !

The comments about the chat room are correct - we can be sad, funny or even silly on occasions - but we are there in the main to offer information, support and understanding - no 2 of us have the exact same problems or experiences - but we have all gained from the chat room and its members.

Please tell us how you really feel next time you are asked - if you feel up to it.

The very fact that you start to tell us how you feel will help to start the healing prosses.

I am so sorry that your husband has not offered you more support - but in some ways he may be hurting as much as you - but typical of us males it would only show how weak we are if we actually say we are hurting, need help - or the real unthinkable have a weep !!

Please join us next time you feel strong enough - I promise you will feel a little better.

John