I am not even the one suffering with the cancer its my mum and she is being so strong. Not only today has she been told she is dying but she has been told she cant even take her last holiday, thats no big deal we will find somewhere in the uk but how do you deal with knowing you are dying. I just want to protect my mum and fight of this evil for her. I do not want her to die. My mum is the most amazing lady you will ever meet, she never gets angry with anyone and everyone loves her. She is beautiful, funny and strong. I am the one sitting here crying and she is the one telling jokes. I am so proud of my mother. But being selfish I dont want her to die, I love her to much and value her wisdom. Why is this such a cruel world, and the good are taken early. My father died 17 years ago and I try and tell myself that dad wants her back and we have had our time with mum and now its her time to go back to dad, and she has done her time here and made sure my sister and I are both fine. But it hurts it really hurts I am going to miss her so much. She has Alzheimers and she knows that she repeats herself all the time and she laughs at herself what an amazing lady. Mum you will never read this but I want you to know how much I love you,and thank you for all your words of wisdom, the hugs the millions and millions of kisses and I am so proud to call you my mother.
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Hello Beverl26,
I'm so sorry to read about your wonderful mum. She sounds an amazing lady and you obviously love her very much. As a mum myself I know how worried our children can get. My 24yr old sat crying after me joking about my cancer. When I asked her why she said she was so scared and I confessed so was I but we would not let it rule our lives. Bless her, she took a week off teaching (frowned upon by her school in term time!) so she could be with me after my operations.
Just let your mum know at every opportunity how much you love her (although she will already know but it helps you release your emotions) and focus on the time you have together and not when she will no longer be with you. It's so hard to lose a parent no matter how old you are so my heart goes out to you. Sending you a big hug and one for your mum too.
I am sorry you are going to lose your mum. I'm sure your mum knows you love her to bits but it won't hurt to keep telling her so. If either of my daughters had written what you have, I would be extremely pleased and flattered to read it, so, if you find making such a 'speech' to her in person rather embarrassing, then show this to her or write something similar in a letter.
As for the future, all you can do now is give her as much emotional and practical support as possible. If you want to rant and rave against the unfairness of this horrible disease then come on here - you'll find plenty of support.
Thank you sometimes does not feel enough to say to someone, it doesnt actually express what you want to say and if I could find the right words I would say them to you all. The messages back from you guys were beautiful.
i am told that laughter does good like medicine. When we can laugh it makes our whole insides feel better. I recently read several books by Barbara Johnson "Stick a Geranium in you hat and be Happy" and "Get a hammer there is a fly on Daddy's Head" and they were the best. They help me laugh through a tough time. Try it, it may help!
