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hi argo

sorry you are having to go through this - sorry your family is going through this hell.

unfortuately, i know just how you feel - so please PM me if you would like someone to talk to. there's nothing i can say to take away your pain, but i can be there to listen and understand.

with love, TGP x

hello argo

im so sorry you are going through this, my husband died in march so i can feel your pain, nothing i can say will make you feel better , but im here if you need someone to talk to ,or a shoulder to cry on , you will get lots of support on here ,and i do honestly feel it will help,

you may feel you wont get through this , but you will ,my advice take it a day at a time and treasure every minute you have left , and when you want to scream ,cry ,or rant come on here and we will all listen ,

sending you lots of hugs jenni xxxx

Morning argo, I've read about how you are feeling, you are not stupid and, although your dad may only have a little time left, if you did cry to him I bet he would still be the best dad in the world and be able to wipe your tears, address your fears and give you the great big hug you need right now.  There are no words to help you right now but I wanted to let you know I read yours and wish you all strength.  Ann xx

I am so sorry that you are going through this - I have done it with my mother and know how difficult it is. I know it's hard, but somehow you have got to try and get something positive out of it. People might laugh at that and say what can you possibly get out of it that is positive. True. Very little. One thing is that you have some idea of when. People who have a heart attack or die in their sleep don't have that luxury (!) Grab the good days with all you can. Keep your memories and keep them going. Time is a great healer and one day you will look back and say "Bloody hell that was difficult but we did get through it." The little things can mean so much. Plan your time together. And cry as much as you want. In one way you and your family are  patients as well. Take any help that is offered. Looking bright, out of pain and eating is a positive. Keep working on that.

With deepest empathy

love

Drew

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Hi Argo,

We haven't spoken for a while, as you may remember we were told my dads diagnosis christmas eve 2009, we were told he may have 12 months, then July 8th he was very poorly, the nurses came out and we were told he only had hours maybe a day!!! he died 3 hours later !!

Basically what i am saying is the next few months are going to mean so much, do not waste a minute of them.

You will find the strength from somewhere, i don't know where it comes from but it does come.

Speak to your Dad, leave nothing unsaid, don't leave room for any regrets.

I'm so sorry you are in this position babe but please keep getting your thought out. it helps me even if mine are a little random sometimes.

Tc, pm me if you want to. (((hugs)))