Perspective

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Massively pissed off right now. How does everyone else deal with people, and by people I mean close family members, who just don't seem to get what you are going through? 

These last 2 months have been the most stressful and worrying of my life. My brother and his girlfriend came down to stay with me. I've spent most of my life dealing with depression and even though my brother was there through it all, he still never quiet understood. The last thing I need right now is more drama in my life, and he seems to thrive on it. Started slamming doors and screaming at me over the fact that I hadn't sorted out the broken phone socket in the spare room. Had to remind him I'd had other things on my mind lately. 

He then went into the guest room and explained to his girlfriend that she couldn't make her phone call because I have cancer. I have never been so angry in my life. 

Is it just me or is he the most unbelievably selfish person?

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Families have a great way of rubbing us up the wrong way don't they!! You must let them know if they do ...or it will just keep happening. Stay stong for yourself and if that means upsetting a few people on the way then so be it. You really do not need the stress at the moment, your brother has obviously not given much thought to your situation, so why waste your brain space on his. Keep strong and look forward knowing your not alone, we are always here XX

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hrmm, what happened to the comment I left? I said thank you everyone for your support. I'm going to try and really cut down on the amount of time I spend communicating with him.

    I'm really sorry to hear some of you are going through worse than I, it's a shame we aren't all family :)

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Allen,

    I cant believe what you have said, not only is your brother selfish he is also very inconsiderate, and if anyone behaved like that in my own house, and spoke to me in that fashion, it would be the last time they ever spoke to me, and they would be very quickly out on their ear.

    The trauma of having cancer no matter what type it is, really messes with your mind enough without having to deal with other peoples attitudes and predjudices towards you or it.

    I hope you gave him what for. Take care and if you are feeling down come on the chat on this site there is always someone to cheer you up.

    all the best.

    pauli............

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thanks Pauli! I really appreciate it :)

    I'm still adjusting to everything, so haven't ventured into chat yet, as for some reason I think it'll be too fast and shocking or something like that. Still pretty raw nerves on my side at the moment me thinks.

    Take care.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Alien, I know how you feel.

    I've been thru something similar to what you are experiencing right now. About18months ago I was diagnosed with MM - total shock, like you I was fit, active etc. I totally freaked out so  doc gave me some sleeping tabs & valium to get thru the  1st few crazy weeks. Great that you have a PET coming up - then you definitely know best & worst & can take it from there.

    Right now  great breakthru's are being made in treating MM. It is not a death-sentence. (See we are still all here!) So keep busy & continue with your working life. It does give you a whole new perspective on life but maybe that's good.

    One guy who helped  me a lot get thru the terror was Seanty.

    His contact is:

    help@mymalignantmelanoma.com

    Have a chat with him - he is fabulous & knows more about MM than most specialists. You'll get thru this & will be reading these old blogs in a year's time.