Perspective

Hi My  Friend,

I had 5 Brothers 2 of which died of Cancer. Now that left another 2,  plus 6 sisters.

I have had Cancer for the last 12 yrs now in remission in that time I have not seen one of them except a sister who lives in america who I webcam every Sunday.

But if one of them had done to me what your brother did to you. To hell with this turning the other cheek, He would have got a smack in the mouth kicked out the door and told. Dont come back.

Iam an non violent person so Im only telling you what I would do. If people treat me with respect they will get the same respect in return. But to be honest he sounds a right Git.!!!!!!!!!!. Ask him if he would like to change places with you. Good Luck.

Take care and be safe Sarsfield.

Families have a lot to answer for. As the saying goes you can choose your friends but not your family....

Perhaps you might want to ask them to leave your house. Or suggest they get a mobile phone so they can call anyone they like as your not going to fix the phone jack...

Put yourself first and to hell with the rest of them. Remember your number one at the moment.

I moved 3000 miles away from my family ....

Take care

Jade

Hi, Its not you, he is being selfish. As already said you are number 1 and if he cant be supportive then tell him to leave if that is what you want. I am a big believer in family unity but I realise the problems in trying to keep the peace. So do what you need to do and take care of you , doesnt sound like he will be of any help at the moment. I wish you success with your treatment and in the coming year. Stay strong, love leisha xx

Hi I am sure if you suggested to them that there is a hotel nearby their attitude would chance. They are the selfish ones not you. When I lost my husband last year my sister told me to stop crying as I was upsetting her, needles to say I have not heard from her since except on 1 occassion whe she said she did not know when Bert had died. He died on her birthday  so wont forget again. It her loss not mine I can go through my life without her just as you can without him if you so choose

Take care look after yourself and leave them to look after themselves. You don't need this added stress

Loads of love Teri

Yes you are the important one! Your brother is being selfish. People really don't understand if it is not happening to them.

After my husbands funeral i was left to get on with it. My 1st xmas without him I was dropped off outside my house at 4pm after dinner out with my mum and siblings whilst everyone went home to their families. I was on my own.

When I got cancer well again I was on my own. Even my own mother buried her head in the sand. Just because I never lost my hair or looked ill then it wasn't happening.

My own daughter told me that it was my own journey and I couldn't expect people to travel with me.

So there you go! Tell your bro that he has upset you and that if he doesn't understand what you are going through and he is not prepared to support you then tell him to leave.

All the best to you for 2011 and for your treatment!

Love Julie xx