Perspective

Less than one minute read time.

Massively pissed off right now. How does everyone else deal with people, and by people I mean close family members, who just don't seem to get what you are going through? 

These last 2 months have been the most stressful and worrying of my life. My brother and his girlfriend came down to stay with me. I've spent most of my life dealing with depression and even though my brother was there through it all, he still never quiet understood. The last thing I need right now is more drama in my life, and he seems to thrive on it. Started slamming doors and screaming at me over the fact that I hadn't sorted out the broken phone socket in the spare room. Had to remind him I'd had other things on my mind lately. 

He then went into the guest room and explained to his girlfriend that she couldn't make her phone call because I have cancer. I have never been so angry in my life. 

Is it just me or is he the most unbelievably selfish person?

 

Anonymous
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Wow, reading your blog and others responses, makes me realise how lucky I am.....your brother does sound really selfish, my family would never behave like that to me, don't get me wrong they aren't angels, but when the chips are down they are the best anyone could wishes for, from my husband, daughter, 4sisters2brothers, my husbands 4 brothers and sister, my parents his parents, all my inlaws, they have been with me every step of the way, I don't think I would still be alive without them..... I'm sorry so many of housing have a good support network.... (((((((hugs)))))))

    LIZ xxxxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    hi hun well happy bloody new year too eh !!!! ive just been throught the exact same with my now ex partner and my grown up son one decided he wasnt spending new year with me but his family sorry is it because he thought oh bolox to that sitting with her and she will be morbid cos she has cancer and my son who lives 3 doors down didnt even bother to appear for 5 mins to say happy new year mum oh well they can take their selfish attitude and stick it where the sun dont shine my son told me (when i was upset and waiting for my results) to stop being a drama queen would love to see how he would react if it was him !!!

    so i have now decided to get rid of the b/friend he wont have to worry about me anymore im stronger than he ever will be and im a better person dont need him in my life and as for my son well he can sort his silly selfish attitude out i dont need him either 2011 will be an uphill struggle for lots of us on here but ya know we will do it and with lovely people on here who understand and would never hurt us we are so lucky chin up youre not alone !!!

    loads of love and hugs  jenxxx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Know how you feel my friend, I live with the most selfish b*****d on the planet who loves to be miserable and tries to ruin anything that I do BUT soon to be hitting the 3 year battle with a bad prognosis, I don't give a S**T, I live my life and will enjoy it and my lovely I suggest you do the same. There comes a time when you have to put yourself first. Some people are so far up their own arses, they need a yard broom to clean their teeth. Think of yourself love and sod everyone else...love Carol xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    OMG how did you not commit murder? I am lucky to have a great husband and two great sisters (my kids only know a bit about my condition), my inlaws bless them are telling everyone I am better now (I wish, but aggressive malignant brain tumours don't work like that!) and my mum just wants to be center of attention, god forbid someone might be more ill than her!

    This site is great though as collectively we have broad shoulders and can handle most things....so use us and abuse us.  We don't judge, we just support.

    I am sorry your brother acted like a total a$$ but thats families (and sometimes friends) for you.

    Debs xx

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I've come across this kind of attitude far too many times.  Sometimes I think "Ha!  You'll see just how serious this is when I'm dead!", probably not the best way to think....

    Ignore them hun, just rise above their simple little lives, you're better than them.

    Marsha x