Perspective

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Massively pissed off right now. How does everyone else deal with people, and by people I mean close family members, who just don't seem to get what you are going through? 

These last 2 months have been the most stressful and worrying of my life. My brother and his girlfriend came down to stay with me. I've spent most of my life dealing with depression and even though my brother was there through it all, he still never quiet understood. The last thing I need right now is more drama in my life, and he seems to thrive on it. Started slamming doors and screaming at me over the fact that I hadn't sorted out the broken phone socket in the spare room. Had to remind him I'd had other things on my mind lately. 

He then went into the guest room and explained to his girlfriend that she couldn't make her phone call because I have cancer. I have never been so angry in my life. 

Is it just me or is he the most unbelievably selfish person?

 

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  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Thanks Tobbias, I really appreciate the the support and will definitely contact your guy with questions!! :) It's crazy how little time you get with specialists in the early days of being diagnosed.

    You start to get the impression there's a big coverup going on, and you're just left to pry answers out of people. I know there's no big coverup, they're just really busy. I guess that's why we have services like Macmillan :)

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hi Alien, As Ford Prefect would say: Don't Panic.

    1. If  no one had told you you would  still be leading your life as normal. I guess that's  why animals are always happy - they don't speculate on meaningless possibilities.

    2. Ignore %'s and  stats - they are meaningless & don't apply to you as an individual case. Each person is unique.

    3. Do research. It gives you a feeling of 'control' & prepares you for what questions to ask the docs. Make a list.

    4.Very few cancer specialists in UK are MM specialists so they fluff around. Oz is country of MM so lots of good work going on there. Mayo clinic has some basic useful stuff.

    5. Keep it private. What is the point of tellling a zillion people?after all it may be cleared up in a few months.(I told only 3 people & not my family) People are still weird about cancer & start avoiding you (or maybe  we  just become more paranoid.)

    I know you will be on a rollercoaster until you get the PET results. But enjoy - enjoy -enjoy. Do things that you really want to do. Hang in there friend ,I know it is xxxxxing Hell.

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    P.S.

    I forgot. If you want to read one of the funniest guys on this site look at:

    drewcotgrave's blog

    I just piss myself at his adventures...what a guy!!!

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I think you've found your "family" right here...The piya in your bedroom, tell them to be on their way..